are my kids stepping over me?

Evalyn - posted on 06/05/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hi All, I am a single, working mother of a girl aged 2 and a boy that is 19 months. I always do my best disciplining them, giving them all the time and love I have. Personally I don't think that I'm a bad mother. I'm actually very proud of myself for reaching goals with regards to my children. I do my best to look well after them, although being a mom and a dad is definitely not easy.

My little boy has a very bad temper. Throws tantrums and screams for me to pick him up. I have different ways to discipline him. From ignoring him, to giving him time out, to distracting him, to sometimes giving him a hiding. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. I am coping with it. I think it just takes time to discipline them.

However, my girl listens to me most of the time, just very cheeky. But she help me so much with everything, she is very lovable and loves to keep herself busy. I discipline her differently because she is not as difficult as her brother. Usually I just count to 3 then she listens. But she can be so CHEEKY sometimes.

Now my problem is, I started dating a while ago. Got a little serious with 2 of the guys (not at once, lol). One had a 7 year old boy, and the other one doesn't have kids of his own.... Both times it didn't work out. Different reasons. The only thing that's similar with these guys, is both of them told me that my kids are brats. They walk all over me and I will never get a boyfriend with kids like mine. I personally feel that my kids really are not that bad. I have seen worse, and I have different ways of disciplining them. I also feel that my kids are my everything, they give me love, they aren't naughty all the time, and I cant just hit them all the time. That doesn't work. I will give up ANY guy for my kids. If I feel the person treats my kids like crap, he must go. Easy as that. I think its a six sense or something.... I don't mind others trying to help disciplining my kids, but its like I can feel the difference between caring and aggravating discipline.

Is there anyone that feels the same? Or maybe I am wrong.... should I be more strict, or just ignore the comments of the exes?

Thank you

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Erisreignssupreme - posted on 06/06/2014

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maybe those men were jealous brats themselves. that swhat i would think. theres no such thing as a brat anyway people see otehr peoples kids and judge that they are brats without knowing anything about them. sometimes they have autism or otehr difficulties and people just walk by and label people. all you can do is your best. and you are the mom that god chose or the universe chose for those kids so your the perfect person to raise them. maybe they are brats in some poeples eyes..so what? some brats do really well in life...a brat is just someone whos parents gave them what they wanted....apparently that ruins you? spoils you? makes you a rotten person? or is that just what people say when they feel bad that they cant give their kids all their kids want? its just a choice.. everyones different. even people who were beaten every day of their lives can be successful happy people and thank god for their lifes pains and experiences..im thinking of maya angelou here. so long as you feel that you are doing the best you can that is all that you can do. and if someone else wants to judge you thats their problem. dont hang on to someone elses judgements they dont belong to you. leave them in the nearest lost and found box!

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