Are you supposed to have a shower for the 2nd baby?

Richelle - posted on 06/03/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




Some people say yes and some say no, so what did you do? I had a girl the first time and this time we're expecting a boy. No one has said anything about throwing me a shower this time, except for the people at my work, so I'm wondering if it's something you should still do or what? I will still need boy clothes, bibs, blankets etc. I have most of the furniture still but will need a new bouncy seat and what about diapers and wipes and toiletries? Am I supposed to do all that myself the second time around? And is it rude to throw your own shower? I'm just wondering what is customary and what is considered rude or unnecessary. Please give me some insight. thanks!


Janalee - posted on 06/21/2010




Typically I would say no. Usually you always get a shower for the first. And typically if there is a larger than 5 year gap between the next child then it would be appropriate. Otherwise, having more children is the responsibliities of the parents financially.


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Angie - posted on 06/21/2010




I was going to have a BBQ/ Gathering kind of a co-ed shower. We were getting ready to have our second son and didnt need much. We were going to a raffle and the cost of tickets was diapers or baby wipes and just have people see the 3 of us before Triston arrived.

Since you are having a boy this time I would say Yes, you need different things , boy things. You dont want him running around in pink. I would talk to one of the friends that said yes and invite those who said no. They will most likely be there.

Nicole - posted on 06/21/2010




I had a girl and then my second is a boy. I had a shower for both because it's a celebration of life. I didn't require presents at my second shower, but those who came knew that I needed boy stuff so they gave gift cards and clothes and diapers. Enjoy a second shower, you deserve it mommy!

Penny - posted on 06/21/2010




i think throw yourself a shower if u like, but yes it is your responsibility to provide everything that your child will need when it is born lol not to rely on presents from others. i never had one with my first but i tink i fancy a bit of a get toggether and a laf with the girlies this time round. xx

Anna - posted on 06/21/2010




I had a shower for my first daughter, but not for my second.
I already had everything I needed because I had another girl, and really didn't feel like being a burden on anyone because of how the economy is. You could simply ask people to send clothes since it's a boy this time around. Just tell people what you think...

Crystal - posted on 06/07/2010




Most people that I have talked with say that if your second baby is the opposite sex then it is normal to have another big baby shower. If the baby is the same sex, then most times they have a small get together or potluck. Either way you need to celebrate!!

Sara - posted on 06/07/2010




i had baby showers for both my children! i had a girl 1st and a boy 2nd time round, my friend threw both of the parties for me, bless her. if u want to throw a party then do it, i had a great time at both showers

Shanna - posted on 06/07/2010




we had showers for my first and my cousin threw us a welcome home baby party so that everyone could come and meet the baby and now i am prego with my third but it will be born right before xmas so i doubt we will have a welcome home baby since we will probably see everyone. i think it just depends. if the girls at your work want to throw you one just let them! :) have fun congratulations!

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Every baby deserves a celebration. What tend to be 'typical' in my circle is the big 'girly' baby shower for the first baby and a family style potluck party for any others.

I personally didn't have any 'real' baby showers since I was on bedrest for my first pregnancy (did have a 'welcome to the world' party when my girls were 6 weeks old though) and going through a seperation w/ my son. The ladies in my Bible study at that time brought me diapers though. I didn't buy my son diapers til he was 6 months old! :)

Sarah - posted on 06/06/2010




many people call it a sprinkle lol but i think you should always celebrate new life!

Rose - posted on 06/03/2010




Im also pregnant with my second baby... It all depends on you really lots of people say yes and no... Im going to have just a diaper party and a celebration after the baby is born.

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