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Kristen - posted on 10/25/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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So I'm a stay at home mom right now, but I am also a student and I graduate in December. I know that my husband is kind of expecting me to go back to work and its not that I have a problem with working...its leaving the baby! So now I'm toiling around with ideas of how to make money from home (i.e. making baby slings). Am I kidding myself here thinking I could possibly find a way to stay at home and not have to do something ridiculous like home telemarketing or paying out hundreds of dollars in hopes of making at least that much in return? I have a couple friends who are into jewelry sales, but I just don't realistically see myself being able to consistently make a decent income off of it. Anybody been here?

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Carrie - posted on 10/29/2009

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I didn't want to leave my baby either so i sold my beauty salon while still pregnant and on maternity and became a childminder, i get to be at home with my boy and he has pther children to play with while getting a wage. i only have a small flat too, that determines how many children you are allowed to look after.

Good luck

Kristen - posted on 10/29/2009

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Its not that he doesn't understand that i want to stay home, but he is also in school and working full time. So I completely understand that we need to be able to have money if he isn't able to work as much with school. Whats heartbreaking to me is that I told him I would feel better about going back to work if he stayed home with baby outside of school and he said he didn't want to because he doesn't feel he has the patience to spend that much time with him regularly :( I know its hard, but I guess I just do it. So this is why I"m trying so hard to find something I can do to bring in money. I am thinking about taking in a couple kids, but my apartment is only so big and I don't want to get overwhelmed.

Wahss - posted on 10/28/2009

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Be honest with him. Tell him you want to stay at home with your baby. It's understandable to us women, as we have the natural instict to nurture. It's a mans natural instinct for providing and nowadays men and women play an equal role in parenting & money making. He just wants that equality ( for u to work as well) Why dont u try running a home daycare? Take in 2-3 other kids about the same age as yours, you'll be making money, staying home, and you'll be able to teach your child how to interact with other kids before he starts school/preschool. etc

Nancy - posted on 10/28/2009

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I think working out of the home isn't to bad. Although I would love to be home with my daughter but I did have the first year home with her befor her and I moved away from my ex. I think you need to look around there are things like medical transcriptionists, people in advertising and computer work that can all be done from home. Also there are other optiond like mayr kay for example where you have as many or as few partys in a month as you want, make your own schedule and get to be home durring the day. I say look around you will find something.

Kristen - posted on 10/28/2009

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thanks girls. My degree that I'm getting doesn't exactly have a career associated with it, so its not like i have to build myself up for something. I went ahead and I'm getting involved with Tupperware and I've also learned how to make baby slings and nursing covers, so hopefully I can bring in some extra holiday money and see where it goes from there :)

Aisha - posted on 10/27/2009

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I would say to be creative. You don't want to drop totally off the radar career wise since that can hurt you when you do choose to rejoin the workforce. Maybe ask your professors or contact alumni about working freelance in your field. Another mom suggested working part time and trading off with your husband. This actually works well with my husband and myself. Our daughter is never with strangers (she's 2 now so she would probably benefit from a school environment), my husband gets one on one time with her, I get a break and keep myself current in the workforce. Even if you work from home you would still be spending time away from your child. Good luck! It's hard, I know. If it helps, my daughter barely knows I'm gone :)

Mia - posted on 10/27/2009

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I totally feel you! I have been at home since my oldest turned 1 1/2. It was definately worth it to me, but the financial strain has been rough. If you have a good business plan, i definately see where you could be set :) Stick with what you want to do for your child, and I am willing to believe that your husband will support you with that.

Nancy - posted on 10/27/2009

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If you like kids and you are great with them, you can babysitte in your house. Do you have the space? that way your child learns with other kids too. I stop working in December last year, I love kids and I have previous expirance in a daycare so I decide to stay at home and babysitte and it has been great, I love to stay with my son and take care of 2 more kids and I made a schedule for them to learn and play.. I love it and I think this is the best job ever :) I hope you find something that you like and at the same time you can spend time with your baby.

Jenn - posted on 10/27/2009

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I was a stay at home mom for a little over 2 years andwas forced to work when i dot divorced. I dont mind working but i dont get much time with my kids. I have considered starting a licensed home day care.

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I would so loved to been able to be a stay at home mom. Financially it wouldn't have worked for us, so instead I went back to work part time. My hubby works days and when he comes home then I go to work. That way our son was with one of us all the time and we didn't have to pay for daycare.

Gwen - posted on 10/26/2009

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Of course you are not kidding yourself! Do your research. Find a product you think there is a good market for. Find someone to help you come up w/ a business plan. There are lots of free resources out there (grants, loans, legal, etc.)...especially for female small business owners.

I had always planned on staying home w/ my daughter, however hubby left us just before she was born and I had no choice but to return to work. If you DO go back to work outside of your home, find a sitter you love and I promise that your baby will still thrive. Good Luck!

Stacy - posted on 10/25/2009

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I have four children, and I was lucky enough to have an understanding man. My to middle children wore in and out of the hospital when they babbies, and we decided I would quit my job and be a full time mom. It is challenge, and can put strain on a relationship. Talk it over with him. I stayed home just long enough to see all the first of my 4 year old. See if maybe he would be wiiling or able finincially allow you to stay home to see your childs first steps and words. I couldn't imagine missing out on that. If you talk to him, and tell him how you feel, the 2 of you may beable to find a solution. Good Luck!

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