Best way to potty train?

Danae - posted on 11/02/2012 ( 20 moms have responded )

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We started potty training our two-year-old daughter, but it's kind of taken a nose dive. Any advice?

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Annmarie - posted on 11/11/2012

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I have 2 year old twins and we are just starting the potty training too.....I know my daughter is now ready as she brought the potty out and took off her nappy and did a wee, just like that! However a week later and she refuses to do that again! How ever her twin is not ready at all, so he will be a different story. My other 2 kids were potty trined first during the day - night time comes later on when they are older. I think lots of praise and talking about the potty/toilet, lots and lots of patience and spare time to devote to it! My older two kids took 2-3 attempts to get it right after a 2 month break inbetween attempts. You will get there, it seems that there is a little switch in their brain and when they "get it" they "get it" and theres no turning back then. When it takes a nose dive, I would tend to sit back and leave it for a few days and then try again, don't want to put them off or frustrate yourself. Hang in there...it will happen !!

Toni - posted on 11/07/2012

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I've stopped/started my 2.5 year old a few times on the advice of peadiatric nurses. Basically I was bullied in to trying by "well meaning" friends who told me my daughter knew what she was doing. My nurse said - yep she does, and she is telling you she ain't ready so leave it. Basically all of the issues they have with kids over 5 and toileting stem from kids pushed to train before they are ready.

All kids are different, some at 12 months, and some at 4. I would just talk to her often and test the waters every couple of months and see how she reacts. I've never seen a 5 year old in diapers so she'll get there one day. I think sometimes the trick is knowing to accept that you know your kid best.



btw I got the "i can go to the potty" book by the Sears's and my dd has all of a sudden shown an interest so maybe try that

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Ronel - posted on 11/21/2012

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Lauren, wow, what a cool way to potty train, I will remember that, and very positive for the child as well, he got lots of presents that weekend I suppose :) LOL

Amanda - posted on 11/20/2012

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My daughter who was 2 in august was toilet trained day and night before she was two. I think she wanted to copy her 3yr old sister but started to keep stripping off. My suggestion is to have a potty close by, strip the child off to just tshirt/jumper and stay at home for the week :)

Ebony - posted on 11/19/2012

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I used Elmo's potty time DVD. It can be found at the library target or Walmart.

Angie - posted on 11/16/2012

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I'm a stay at home mom to three and I don't potty train.



My two oldest are girls and my son is 18mos old. With the girls, if they wanted to wear 'big girl panties' I would let them. If there was an accident, we went back to diapers and they were okay with that. One day they just told me they didn't want to wear diapers anymore and that was that. The oldest was waking up dry at night within a week but my 3 year old is still wearing diapers at night until she can wake up dry. Both were right around 3 years old when they decided to start using the potty.



My kids are very close in age and we have carpeting through out the house except for in the kitchen and bathrooms. I just didn't have it in me to clean carpets all the time with them being so little and close together. I was willing to try it with them if they wanted to, but I wasn't about to push it with them. We still rewarded them, the oldest liked lifesavers and the other liked almonds and a sticker! They got rewarded for a week and then they were officially big girls!

Nicci - posted on 11/14/2012

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Danae, every child is different and start at different ages. While it can be a very frustrating process, just know that when your child is ready, she'll go. We went through this with my youngest and at almost 5 he is still wearing a pull-up at night, where my daughter was in a pull-up at night for less than a month and hardly at all during the day. She was a breeze and he is proving to be our difficult one. So, my only advice or suggestion is to just let her take the lead while still encouraging her to use the potty. Be patient because this too shall pass. Best of luck to you!

Angie - posted on 11/13/2012

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Danae- I think most of us moms miss understand potty training- thinking we are simply training a child to go to the bathroom, but in reality we are doing two things:

1) We are retraining them out of a habit we trained them in for the first two years of their life- it is all they have known- so we should expect it to take some effort! ;)

2) I believe potty training is more about training the mommy than it is training the toddler. Potty training doesn't have to be stressful but we have to set ourselves up for the right expectations of what it is going to take. I have six children and the last few children I potty trained I had to get my mind right and set realistic expectations for myself... can I be consistently home for at least a week or two and fully devote my time to really truly focusing on training my toddler to go potty? If the answer is yes and I am committed to the schedule of numerous, scheduled/timed attempts on the potty... then go for it! If I as a mother have a full schedule of going here and there and no time to really dedicate to training, expect there to be struggles, "accidents", and honestly possibly frustration.



Remember to have grace with yourself- potty training isn't eternal-and there are a lot of opinions out there on all topics- just listen to your instinct- get realistic expectations for what you can expect from your child based on your schedule and if you can actually "train yourself" to be home enough to potty train. Take advice and opinions carefully- choose carefully.



Giving yourself grace means not making it into a "big" deal if your child doesn't get it right away. How many college students do you know wearing diapers- it will happen! Seven habits of highly effective people says it takes 21 days to create a habit. I have read potty training in a day kinds of books and I have tried those techniques. Many are great techniques, but as I have found having six very different unique children... you can't put kids in a box and we shouldn't try to either. Some kids take longer to "get it" and that is ok! So give yourself grace!



Good luck as you potty train- I am routing for you! Angie Tolpin http://angietolpin.com

Shannon - posted on 11/12/2012

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The thing I did with both of my kids (and my soon isn't three yet and fully potty trained-including at night) is put her in underwear. No pull UPS or diapers. Just regular underwear and preferably one she picked herself. I let my soon choose and he chose Thomas so I told him"we don't want Thomas wet." He's done great with only a few accidents along the way

Chhavi - posted on 11/11/2012

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you just have to keep taking them to the bathroom every one and a half hour. and point out how dirty pooping or peeing in the diaper/in clothes, underwear feels. it worked with my son.

repetition repetition repetition.

Becky - posted on 11/11/2012

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The best book I've found about potty training is 3daypottytraining.com ebook. It's great! I have 3 kids of my own and am so sad that I didn't discover it until my 3rd kid. After trying several other methods this was the one I finally had success with. Hopefully it will help you too!

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They are all different!

My first, Anna, took 3 weeks at 18mths, I think she only wet the bed once or twice. I was pretty much housebound for that time. I figured out she would wee about 15-20mins after eating, at that age. I'd pop the potty in front of the tv (good mum I am :)) and she would do her thing and hop off. The time lapse between eating/ toiletting increased as she grew.

Second child, Ruby, was ready at 2.5. Before that, she hated potty training. She has been toiletting herself since she was 2.7mths. Going out can still make hysterics- I have to visit shop centres that have a toddler toilet. She got to a stage where she was being a bit silly- want to/ don't wanna, and I called her bluff, told her there was no park unless she went on the toilet. (The potty was an issue for us, as was the step n seat over toilet rim combo, but the step n seat is now her preference). I tried to work the method of routine I had with Anna. It worked but not as well. Bottom line: I knew she was able and ready - she was just testing boundaries and being cheeky.

Joey, near two, has started to crouch when about to wee or poo in the nappy, but he shows no regard for the toilet- unless it's to stuff Buzz Lightyear down it! SPACE Ranger, Joey, not Septic Ranger!

I plan to do a one day trial over summer, just to see if he can grasp the concept..

Good Luck with whatever method you choose. And buy bleach. Buzz'll thank you for it! :)

Carla - posted on 11/08/2012

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What do you mean by nose dive?

My son I had tried 3 times. 1st time he was about 18months as he was going off doing his business and then going to his room and trying to wipe and change himself, but he refused to go potty or the toilet.

2nd was just before he turned 2, he asked him he could go potty and he did, I had him trained fully for about a month and a half, almost 2months but we moved and he stopped going.

3rd he was blatantly refusing to go in our new home but would go at the shops if we were out, my friends houses, daycare, my parents place. Im still not sure of the reason whether he was jst being lazy at home, or didnt like the change to the new place but in the end I stayed at my parents, friends on and off for a few weeks only coming home for a day or 2, 3 and if he started again we would go away again..... Then finally he just started going so I would give him a prize at first everytime then it became every 2nd for a week, then 3 times etc until it got to long and he never asked

Gemma - posted on 11/06/2012

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I started potty training kind of at 20 months obviously it was only half hearted so she know what potty/toilet was she is now 3 and dry everyday no accidents :D

Dint push it till she was over 2 as i think to small but should be aware of the idea.

I used to take my daughter with me so eventually she wanted to be like mummy she gave it a go. But at the beginning i did have to keep asking do you nedd to go??

They will all have accidents its not their fault it part of growing up just make sure you get lot's of carpet cleaner in LOL..

They will get their in the end and all learn at different rates. We'd be boring if we were all the same :D

Michelle - posted on 11/04/2012

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When they have a sleep during the day and wake up dry that's when you know they're relay to toilet train because they're showing some bladder control. We tried for months with my son and would have an accident everyday, then one day we came home from shopping and he went and hoped on the toilet all on his own without being asked and has been right ever since. Try not to make a big deal of it, they all get there eventually

Lauren - posted on 11/04/2012

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I potty trained my son in a long weekend where we stayed in and consistently did the same thing. First, once we put on underwear we didn't use pull ups except for over night for a few nights. During the weekend we gave him a good amount of drinks so he would have to go and anytime he went on the potty he got a small reward a sticker or Hershey kiss etc... But if he had an accident we did a potty run 3 times. Which means you go through the motions of going potty 3x you put new underwear on go back to potty pull down underwear sit down pull up Pants leave room come back and repeat. But if we were doing a potty run and he actually went on one of the 3 times we'd stoP and he'd get a prize. ( he had to sit on the potty and try at least once in 2 hrs if he stayed dry) within 3 days he was trained and barely had any accidents afterward. Good luck hope this helps

Amy - posted on 11/02/2012

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It could be she's just not ready. What is happening that you say it's "taken a nose dive"? If she is resistant to sitting on the potty it would be best to forget about it for a month or two. She's still on the younger side to potty train although some do train that young. Mine was 2 years 5 months when we started and finished although we had introduced the potty to her when she was younger just so she would get used to seeing it.

Tess - posted on 11/02/2012

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Same thing here.. I have a 31/2 yrs old daughter and she is very inconsistent... I have to remind her all the time to go to the bathroom.. At night time or when we have to go somewhere, I put her pull ups as opposed to regular under wears.

Tess - posted on 11/02/2012

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Same thing here.. I have a 31/2 yrs old daughter and she is very inconsistent... I have to remind her all the time to go to the bathroom.. At night time or when we have to go somewhere, I put her pull ups as opposed to regular under wears.

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