Calling everyone daddy

Brittany - posted on 09/14/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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So me and my ex have been separated for about 8 months. My son just turned two and had been seeing his dad about once a month every since. He calls him daddy, recognizes him as daddy and has recently identified him as daddy on the phone. But for the last few months he'll see random guys, driving down the street, in the store, on TV ect. and ask "that daddy?" Or "That daddy!!" And I don't understand why. The only others male figure he is around is his uncle and he knows that he's uncle, but no other males. So I'm wondering if he knows that "daddy" is his dad, or is that just a male to him? Makes me wonder if its doing more harm than good by seeing him. Please tell me what you think.

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Chris - posted on 10/01/2013

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So, my 22 month old daughter started doing the same thing, but she also points to other women and says "Is that a Mommy?", or older men and say "Is that Papa (Grandpa)?" And, of course, to other men, asking if that's a "Daddy". She did it to one man in the store, and I said "Maybe he is a Daddy" and he looked at me and said "Not anytime soon!" It was pretty funny.

But, I researched it. It is a phase of identification, that will eventually subside. After a trip to Chicago, where we spent a lot of time with her auntie and uncle, and Mimi and Papa, she would ask the same thing about strangers that resembled any one of them either in age or looks. Anyhow, I would say that barring any other issues that would adversely affect your son's development, he should see his father. I don't think what he's saying about other "Daddy's" has anything to do with that. It's just a phase of development.

Rebecca - posted on 09/16/2013

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I know the feeling. My ex and I have been separated almost two years. My son rarely sees his dad usually tells me he is scared and hides behind me when he does. When one of his uncles is around he thinks thatis his dad I guess bc he sees him more than his dad. He dad ants me to sign divorce papers giving him every other weekend unsupervised but until he shows up for the court ordered supervised every Sunday so my son knows who he is I don't think it is healthy for him to be scared like this of his own father.

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