confused, will i seem like a mean friend???

PATIENCE - posted on 12/12/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




hi, we are throwing a 2nd birthday party for our son in April and my hubby wishes we invite only 2 years olds and 3 years olds so they interact well as age mates in terms of playing.

but my worry is we have these 4 really close friends who all have kids 2 yrs and 4 yrs..and like i said we wish to invite only 2 or 3 yrs only. will it look mean to invite only their 2 yrs olds and leave out their 4 years old??? and another of our closet friend has only one kid who is 4 yrs old, whom we will obviously not invite. but all these friends have invited our son to their 4 yrs old kids' birthday parties.,

do we just invite their 4 year olds and break our "pattern" or do we just stick to what we want and "look mean"??? will they even bother to bring their two year olds?? um sooooo confused.. HELP! PLEASE!!


Gigi - posted on 12/12/2012




Yes, I think it is not nice. If you are close friends and were invited to their children's birthday parties and attended then it is proper they are invited as well.

Honestly, I don't see what is the reasoning behind targeting only 2/3 year olds. Your son has very little idea what is happening anyways and it is only good for him to interact with older children.

In my opinion when it comes to children's birthday parties - the more the merrier.

Also take in the account that all the children you excluded now, will have birthday parties in the future and your son will probably not be invited to them. How will that make him feel when he is lets say 7 and his "friend" turns 9 and he is excluded?


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Dani - posted on 12/22/2012




My 16 mth old loves watching the bigger kids. I think its good to get them interacted with as may different types and ages. My friends would be mighty pissed off if I didn't invite them due to the age of their kids. And because our family is so big with many aged kiddies, I couldn't invite some nephews and nieces and not others... :)

Eva - posted on 12/19/2012




This age difference isn't significant enough.... your friends will think you're just being ridiculous. Some "rules" are made to be broken, this is one of them. Let your friends bring their kids.

Ana - posted on 12/17/2012




I get that yall want to keep kids in the same close age range at the party, but is this for some sort of safety reason? Will the activities truly be too young for the 4yr olds to participate in?

Last time I checked, most 2yr olds have cake and ice cream, maybe a clown, petting zoo,..etc.. just saying, what kind of party is it? Why the harsh restriction?

And it's not mean to specify who you would like to attend your party, but it sounds
(dumb) if there is no real reason other than the fact that you all just want the perfect age kids there to not include there fairly close in age brothers or sisters and your good friends child.

Sue - posted on 12/14/2012




does your little one like playing with the 4 year olds? my little one tends to gravitate more to the older kids to be around because all of her cousins are older than her.

It's your party you can do what you want to ;)

but I would be cautions, if I had two children that close in age, and only one was invited to the party, I would probably be upset. It would make a hassle to those parents as well because they would have to explain to the older child that they can't go, and find a sitter. It would probably make me feel a little upset if only one of my young children were invited to a close friends child's birthday party. Also at that age too many children over at one time, might just be too much on your little one.

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