crying over every little thing!! Help!!!

Kelly - posted on 09/25/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son is 3 1/2 years old, and i am so tired of hearing him cry at every little no, dont do that, not right now, hold on a minute and its nap/bed time!! I dont understand why he is doing this!! He's fed, bathed/washed up, played out, having enough hours of sleep he should be getting for his age, hydrated and even most days, cuddled out! He's a happy little boy, but as soon as we say "no, you cant have that" or "not right now, how about we do something else right now because..." he starts to cry and he runs off and hides in his room and wont talk to anyone sometimes for almost half hour. Is this just a phase he's going through? Or is it something bigger? Has anyone else here been through this? Please all the advice i can get right now would be great!!!!


Kelina - posted on 09/26/2011




is he getting attention from it? Or do you ignore it? My son tries the same thing sometimes, i tell him to go cry in his room and come out when he can act like a big boy. He usually cries himself out in a couple of minutes. Hopefully it's just a stage. hope it works out!

Christy - posted on 09/25/2011




OMG my son turned 4 in June and cries over every little thing. It is either a phase your son will grow out of, or it may be a part of his "hard wiring" if that makes sense!


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Kathy - posted on 09/27/2011




it's a phase!

i think they sort of use that to see how far they can get; also, they may pick it up from other kids. my friend's son is doing the same thing and he's the same age as my daughter. i remember i bumped into him and his son and i said hello and his son burst into tears. my friend said: i have no idea why he's crying. he just freaked out because he didn't want to put his shoes on and he hasn't stopped crying or whining since.

i also think they're going through a lot at this age emotionally and physically. i read in some medial journal that there are two highly emotional times in a person's life: when they are children between the age of 3-5 and during the adolescent years so i concluded that the emotional ups and downs that my dd is experiencing is probably what teenagers feel when they're going through puberty. that explained a whole lot because she gets so upset over something when before it never bothered her.

if she's upset or crying, i try and talk to her and ask her to explain what's wrong or why she's crying. then we try and find a solution together or i ask: what would make you feel better? after talking a bit, she usually feels better but if not, i ask her if she wants to be alone for a while and if she does, i leave her but i'm always close where she can see me.

it's tough but hang in there!

Katherine - posted on 09/27/2011




It sounds like he's hypersensitive. I would be more in tune to his feelings even though it's frustrating. I definitely wouldn't punish him.

Maybe say, "I know your upset but....." Try to get him to talk about it instead of crying. Maybe something is going on that he hasn't told you......maybe he isn't sleeping well.
I would ask his doctor if it's normal too.

This is a pretty good link I found:

Maybe that will help.

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