Delayed Entry Into School

Katina - posted on 04/11/2012 ( 25 moms have responded )

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My son Braxton was born in mid-October. Has anyone else experienced having to delay their child's entry into school because of their birthdate? Do you agree with this?

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Julie - posted on 04/13/2012

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My oldest is 6 1/2 and her birthday is September 3rd. The cutoff is September 1st in our area, so she turned 5 right after starting prek. Her sisters birthdays are the week before so this fall Maggie will be three when starting Prek and turn 4 a week later. Our problem is my youngest, Grace, whose birthday is the day after Maggie's. We are wanting to hold her out a year but were told we could do that without skipping prek. Maggie is extremely mature for her age whereas Grace is not.

I read an article lately about it was more beneficial for children to stay behind that extra year when their birthday is so close to the cutoff. It said that over time , the study followed a group of children from prek to 12th grade, the kids that were the oldest in their class tested better, had better grades, and had less behavior problems than children who were the youngest in the class. It also said that the youngest children in the class were several times more likely to be diagnosed with conditions such as ADHD or ADD when in fact they were probably just immature for the grade they were in.

Happy - posted on 04/17/2012

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Our son has a late July birthday and we had him start kindergarten a year later than he was "allowed" because of it. Kids maybe ready intellectually for school at 3, 4, or 5 but I think they still need to be home. Just my personal opinion. I also have heard horror story after hrooror story about boys and girls for that matter who go off to college at 17 or barely 18. Yet I have never heard anything possitive coming from going of to college at such a young age. It was just what was best for us.

Elicia - posted on 04/17/2012

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I'm from Ontario Canada and here it is based on the year they were born and there is no cut-off time. We have Junior Kindergarten and Senior Kindergarten that are all day every-other day, but soon all J/K and S/K students in Ontario will go all day everyday just like the older grades. My son was 3 years old when he started Junior Kindergarten and his birthday is in December,...now he is in S/K and is ahead in reading and doing really well. We have the option here for kids born later in the year...if we want to send them to Junior Kindergarten when they are 3 turning 4 we can or we can wait until they are 4 turning 5....it all depends on the child. I think its unfortunate that you have to have a cut off date for when your child can attend school.

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Lisa - posted on 12/30/2014

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Hi Elicia
You say we have the option to send kids to JK 3 turning 4 or 4 turning 5. I have a situation where my daughter was born Dec. 31st, 2009. I held her back a year and when I enrolled her, the school has automatically put her in SK. I expressed my wishes for her to be in JK in which they want to have a meeting about. I truly believe my daughter will benefit from being held back, I thought after heavy thought last year I had finalized the decision until I find myself fighting with the school to accommodate my beliefs and wishes. I need all the help I can get or find a law that states I have this right if it exists.....any help, or advise, or professional that you know that can help me.

Ladyallwayzz - posted on 05/19/2012

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according the the law, you really don't need to put your child in school until the age of 6 or you can homeschool them. I put my oldest in school early,(not knowing any bette at the time) and the stress was absurd. later, I homeschooled both girls, and it was the best thing all around for them as well as for us. we truly enjoyed our time and days together. they learned at their pace, and we joined co-ops, they made alot of friends.

Renee - posted on 04/26/2012

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It totally depends on the school and child. We have the option to start them early, which I did with my daughter who turned 3 in November. Being that she has two older siblings, she was ready for preschool and being with children her own age has been a great experience.

My niece, who is also born in November started kindergarten early and ended up repeating it. She was an only child and just wasn't emotionally mature enough to move on to 1st grade. She is doing well now in 9th grade!

Lori - posted on 04/23/2012

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I understand my elder daughter is 9 and her birthday is 10/30 and she too miss the cute off date which is oct 5. She should be in the 4th grade. So I know the feeling having your start late for school. I really don't agree because if the child is ready why shouldn't they be able to go to school.

Katrina - posted on 04/15/2012

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I strongly disagree w/ this to an extent. I think there should be a grace period of 3 to 4 weeks and leave it up to testing or parents if their child is ready to start school.

My daughter had to wait another yr. because her b-day was 3 weeks past the cut off.

She was ready to start because her Grandmother and I worked w/ her on many things.

I had her tested to skip kindergarten,but they said they were worried about her social skills and her math (word problems).

I was told they are expected to do word problems in first grade. I was (and am not) happy w/ this at all. If they would have shown her how to do one she would have caught on. She was tested on the first day of school (while the other kids got to go play) (hmmm how fair is that to be on her mind). So here my child is that can already read on at least a 3rd grade level (is reading the magic tree house series) and knew her letters can do addition and subtraction etc... and they are worried about social skills?? So they have been sending her first grade homework home as extra work by my suggestion but she isn't in first grade???? She is like I'm the only one in the class that has to this mom. The teacher finally has let her check out more advanced books. She gets to read to the class and be teachers helper because she is bored. We thought about (and are still thinking about) homeschooling her, but now she has her friends and is totally against it. (she may not be given a choice in the matter) She is highly intelligent for her 6 yrs. and even her Grandma said school has dumb ed her down. My assessment of this is that the over all tests are by class average.... guess w/ her as the highest scorer they are in great shape. The worst pt. about this is that this is one of the best schools around as far as quality goes.... I guess I should count my blessings,but it's hared when you feel like your child is being held bk. from full potential.

Heather - posted on 04/15/2012

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Our district has this policy also. My son barely made the cut-off. I think ours is August 1st and his birthday is July 29. I do agree with it sort of. He was one of the more mature in his preschool class, especially for being one of the youngest. There and still some kids who are older that I still don't feel should be in school yet, and I'm talking about kindergarteners now because that's the grade he's in now. I think if they can make a good grade on the test they have to do to get into preschool or kindergarten and they have a fairly high maturity level they should get to start school despite the policy on birthdates. I did homeschooling with my kid until he started school, and some days he still asks to do schooling with me, especially during winter and summer breaks. It's a great way to get you kid ready, if you haven't started already.

Nakia - posted on 04/14/2012

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I will say that making the decision to move her into PreK at 4 was something that I thought about long and hard. While there was a lot of research on the disadvantages of being the youngest in the class, there was equally a lot of research on the advantages. I did do a lot of role playing with my daughter and still do on issues relating to social interactions and social negotiating. This has helped her tremendously. Her last report showed that she shows leadership and interacted extremely well with other classmates. I also have to credit the school in which she attends. The class sizes are only 12-15 kids in each class and they focus a lot on social interaction at this level. They also spend three months during the summer just doing class placement, where they look at an array of factors when determining where they will place a child the following year. My daughter has been at the school since she was 3 and will most likely be there up until her senior year in high school.

There are some challenges, I will admit that but I see some challenges with the opposite as well. My friend whose kids are much older than my daughter. They are in 6th and 8th grade. She kept both of them back. The issue she is having with the 6 grader is that the curriculum is not challenging enough and frustrates her daughter to no end. She is often bored. My friend said that her daughter often socialized more with kids in higher classes as oppose to her immediate classmates because of the maturity level of those classmates. A problem she says she did not have with the child that is in the 8th grade.

At the end of the day, Children are not carbon copies. They are unique, so I believe that it really depends on the child. You have to just monitor their progress and use the appropriate tools to help them adjust, which is what we do as moms anyway.

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2012

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I did not start school until I wa 6 yrs old. I also have a daughter with an Aug. birthday....we did not start her until she was 6 yrs old. From personal experience I was glad my parents started me later. My maturity level was higher and I would have hated being the youngest in my class. Looking back I really think that having that higher maturity level really helped me out in a lot of my life's choices. I also see that in my daughter. Socially and academicly she would have been ready to start early. She is often times looked at as a leader by both her teachers and her classmates. I know this would not have been true if she was one of the younger ones. I also see this in two of the kids I baby sit for. One misses the cut off by just a few weeks.....so will be an older child in the grade. The other child turns 5 a week before the cut off. The younger one is VERY much a follower and will feed off of others. You can also tell that she is a younger 5 yr old. The older one you can tell she is older. She is VERY much a leader and more assured of herself. Both accademically and socially would do fine......But I look at more what will be happening when their classmates are 15, 16 years old. I would much rather have a child that is on of the older ones, a leader, and being assured of themselves.

Nakia - posted on 04/13/2012

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My daughter Zoe's birthday is Oct. 19 and I had the same issue. It drove me crazy, so to get around it, I put her in private school. Best decision I ever made.

Sandy - posted on 04/13/2012

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My child was born in December. I know what you mean. It used to be that you could enter your child into (let's say) first grade if he turned six in that calendar year. Now, he has to turn six before the first day of school. I disagree with the system and rule.

Erin - posted on 04/13/2012

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My parents chose to delay me for one year (I was a May baby). To this day, I am glad that they did. I plan on waiting for my oldest to turn 6 before he enters kindergarten since his birthday is at the end of August. He's not quite emotionally mature enough for kindergarten this fall. Academically, he's more than ready, but emotionally is not. Since I look at the long term in most things anyway, I want to give him all the tools he needs for long term success. That means that I will be holding him back from starting kindergarten for another year so he's emotially as well as academically ready for school.

Helen - posted on 04/13/2012

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My child is born in mid-October also and although the state would have allowed her to go to school the year she turned 5 the school she is attending cuts off the year at the end of September. It is the best thing that has happened to her, she is academically, emotionally and in almost every other way I can think of better prepared to face Kindergarten this year than she was last year. There is no part of this choice my husband and I regret.

Alice - posted on 04/13/2012

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My boys have late-September birthdays and the decision was easy to wait until they were 5 (going on 6) to start kindergarten. Although we are in California, where they could have started when they were 4 (going on 5), the culture in our neighborhood is for parents to hold back their kids if they have not turned 5 end of the previous school year. I did not feel it would be fair in class, on the playground, or their self-esteem to have kids as much as 15 months older than them in the class. As individuals, I also felt that the extra year of preschool has helped their maturity and communication skills to function in a larger class. This year, our school district offers a Junior Kindergarten grade level for kids who have fall birthdays so that they can do a year before entering Kindergarten. You could ask your school district if there is such a program there.



California is in the process of moving the cutoff for kindergarten to Sept 1st, and I think it is a reflection that there are more academic expectations in kindergarten that when we were kindergarteners. For example, at our neighborhood public school, most of the kids are reading chapter books by the end of kindergarten. I don't remember doing that until 1st or 2nd grade (of course, it has been decades)

Lisa - posted on 04/13/2012

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Of course. My boys are born mid October and the cutoff for kindergarden is turning 5 by Aug. 31. It's just the way it is and they will start Kindergarden the following year. There simply has to be a cutoff date and in my area it's August.

Miranda - posted on 04/13/2012

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I have a son with a mid October and I personally don't like that he has to wait to start kindergarten. I teach him at home and he is already reading short books. It depends on where you live. I currently live in a small town outside El Paso, Texas and when I registered him for Pre-K I asked if there was anyway he could test out and just start kindergarten and they told me that they don't make any exceptions. Before we moved here we lived in upstate NY and instead of the cut-off for school being Sept. in was in Dec so that kids with fall birthdays weren't left behind another year. It also makes for a smaller gap in the ages of the children in the class.

Susan - posted on 04/12/2012

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Absolutely agree. Two of my kids are late October and it's been really beneficial to have the extra year. In LA the local school district is moving to a September 1st b-day cutoff and instituting a 2 year Kinder program with kids born between Sep and Dec in a transitional program. With standards for Kinder being really focused on sitting still and doing desk work the extra time is good for kids that aren't used to it. Adjustments can be made post Kinder if any child is actually ready to make the jump.

Halima - posted on 04/12/2012

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It depends on the child.my daughter birthday is Sept.29th and she had to wait a year.now she is in 5th grade and will be 12 yrs.old.She has been on the honor roll since she has been in school.If

Medic - posted on 04/12/2012

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I did it....it is not really delaying entry..because they are not old enough, no if's ands or buts about it. My bday was Sept 16, the cut off was Sept 1, my sons bday is Sept 1 so he went into kinder at 4.

Heather - posted on 04/12/2012

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Yep, and our son's birthday is October 1st. The cut off date is Sept. 30th, no exceptions. Our son is in special Ed PreK, and he hopefully will go into what they call the kindergarten transition class. He actually isn't ready for kindergarten yet. I am thankful that they have a class like this! He had issues in communicating with others and making friends. He would never talk to people correctly or say hi to them when he started the special ed prek, now, he does! He is book smart, but he wasn't smart in how to talk to others or in how to behave. He has done almost a complete 180! I am proud of him! He still has some issues, but he has come a long way. It was tough to get him in, and he didn't start until the end of Oct. last year. I don't see anything wrong with it. Especially when our kids are boys, they aren't always ready. Check our your local school district and see if they offer some prek classes or kindergarten transition classes like ours does! You never know!

Katina - posted on 04/12/2012

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Thanks Michelle. Braxton at three is quick to learn and not as sociable as his older brother who is five. I have been looking into other options for him after speaking with the principal of my oldest son's school. Hopefully I will be able to afford private school or may just home school him until he is ready for the second grade.

Michelle - posted on 04/11/2012

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my son missed the cutoff for school by 29 days, though he was smart enough to carry on to grade one they didn't do it and now though he is the oldest in his class he is doing quite well has lots of friends and enjoys school the only thing we are seeing right now is he is starting to mature a little faster than his friends which is causing him a little grief but he is managing.

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