Do u think after having a baby ur relationship changes?

Krystal - posted on 11/21/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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After having your children do you think things change between you and the father for the worse or do they get betta?

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Bridget - posted on 11/21/2009

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I have heard that if you had have a good relationship to start with, a child will bring you closer but if you have a bad relationship, a child can drive you apart. In my experience, having children made us closer. Sometimes I miss the times when he & I could just snuggle on the couch together because it seems like the amount of individual attention that we give each other is minimal but we do have a strong emotional bond.

Michelle - posted on 11/21/2009

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Of course your relationship changes. Your lives change and your priorities change. How you handle it can determine how it changes. My husband and I had some of our hardest times in the few months after the birth of each of our children. Because we were both exhausted and too busy with the kids to spend any time with each other. But really we always seem to not only come together and work it out but to really be closer. Relationships are always up and down because we're individuals trying to come together and the challenges that creates can cause problems. You can decide to let it destroy your relationship or you can use it to make your relationship stronger. That being said having kids has made our marriage even better!

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Things changed for the better. It definitely made us closer. I am fortunate that we are able to talk so well because you are going to disagree about how to do things, etc...and it helps if you can talk instead of argue. It made us work harder to spend quality time together and that's very important! Make sure you spend time alone with hubby. It helps you stay connected. We have always made sure that we continued '"dating" even if it was a date at home.

Karen - posted on 11/21/2009

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yes my relationship with my husband did b/c our daughter doesn't sleep much she is 2 years old and has never slept good so i was always tired and she still doesn't sleep much and now we also have a 7 month old little boy and he sleeps great but i am up some times til 6am with her and then the baby is up at 6:30am and up for the rest of the day and he works so when he gets home all i want to do is sleep and the kids want momma so i still have to sleep and we don't get time for us anymore

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Cortissia - posted on 11/23/2009

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Yes, your relationsip changes after you have a baby. I baby comes with all of responsibility. As parents, you and your hubby are concerned about someone elase other than yourself. This change does not have to be a BAD thing. Adjusting to the baby is a new, thing. Good things come to those who wait.

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Yes. Because as mommies we have to clean, bath, feed, change, work, make dinner, play "wifey" to husband and then when they get home they want to have you know. Its all tiring but what can you do. So i agree that it changes definetly

Olga - posted on 11/22/2009

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In my case it became worth. He didnt help me a lot, i got tired a lot of taking care of baby, so no mood and power to support our relations. He didnt do it also. He works hardly. We loved each other, but now our feelings r not the same. Hope it will be changed... ;)

Krystal - posted on 11/22/2009

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Well thanks 4 all the fed back i found all of it very helpful...I feel n a way things change. I have 2 baby fathers and the 1st 1 we were good 4 a while but then we lost a baby when i was 6.5 months pregnant and then i got pregnant wit my 4yr old a month lata, mayb the lost of the 1st 1 put a strain on us cuz we both dealt wit it differently annd then 4 me 2 get pregnant right afta i dont think i was n the right mind state cuz i was miserable that whole pregnancy to the point i think its my fault my son is a big crybaby and angry all the time, but when my son was a year i left him and i met my 2nd son father withn that year.
I got pregnant wit my younger son n 2007 in April and i was so happy the whole pregnancy everything was great that was the best pregnancy i had. It turned rocky when my son was 8 months cuz i found out he had a whole other life, he didnt have another kid just livin wit another woman and i think that really changed everything we been off and on ever since at times its so good then at times we argue and threaten each other and we just did that this week and now we so good... I dont know mayb its me and my luck.

Why is it that i love this 1 so much more then my 1st baby father and this 1 does nuffin 4 me i do everything and my 1st baby father gave me his last but doesnt take care of his kid at all and i still love him and want him but i cant go back 2 him cuz im n love wit the 1 im wit now, i think im confused lol.

Kathy - posted on 11/21/2009

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My pregnancy was the cause of both my spouse and I growing up and becoming adults. I have no idea how far in life we'd actually be if we weren't blessed with our son.

Tanya - posted on 11/21/2009

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yes with my ex we had a daughter together, i was able to put my child before my self and walk out on him after 6 yrs together. I have no regrets, he was a cheating abusive violent *****..... my sons father and i have been together for 5 yrs, everything was awsum before we had him but we died out after we had him, we now sleep in seperate rooms,do our own things, have seperate lives even.... it wasnt on purpose it just happened :S

Jackie - posted on 11/21/2009

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At first mine did not get better at all. But now with 2 kids and 3yrs later it has gotten alot better.

Summer - posted on 11/21/2009

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For us it got better.we have a blended family but when we had our own cild together our relationship got so much better.our daughter is 16 months old now and things have never been better.

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