Do you find it hard to get "me" time? If so what do you do?

Katherine - posted on 05/17/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )




It's super hard for me being a single mom. I get a break every Saturday when my ex takes the kids, but it flies by. Sometimes I can go out during the week, but very rarely. It is so frustrating! I'm exhausted all of the time with a 3 and 6 year old. My 3 year old is very demanding and my 6 year old is too.


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Kelly - posted on 05/19/2012




I think this tends to be every busy moms issue. I work from home so rarely get any time without my daughter. My daily "break" comes at bed time around 7:30-8pm and some days it can't come soon enough!

Amanda - posted on 05/19/2012




I have me time when hubby is at work and the kids go to bed. I have a bath and read a book, but I usually end up falling asleep on the sofa.
I also have no family around to give me a break so with hubby doing shift work I'm pretty much on my own, so I took it upon myself and joined the gym that has fantastic child minding facilities and drop the kids off for an hour in the morning during the week

Liz - posted on 05/18/2012




I have my time when the kids go to bed at 8. I stay at home with them all day, and my husband works ALL THE TIME! (Well, not really, but it sure seems that way lately!) I crave adult interaction! My kids are 5, almost 4, 2.5 and 11 months - so between feeding, changing diapers and clothes, bathing, and trying to keep my house livable, "me" time is sacred! Thankfully, my sister in law lives only a few miles away and her boys are the same ages as my boys, so we trade off on watching each other's kids. I say often, "I would like just one day with no kids to do whatever I want!" and when I get that day, I end up cleaning :)

Tanya - posted on 05/18/2012




My me time is when the kids go to bed. I have a 7 yr old and nearly 5 yr old and am pregnant with our last baby. Our nearly 5 yr old is autistic and needs a lot of time and energy spent with him, which also means no babysitter who will take him except for my best friend who understands what it takes to raise a special needs child (my mother passed away 2 years ago and she was my support network). Most of my days are full on and even when our son is at kindergarten 2.5 hrs a day, 3 days a week, that time is usually spent on housework that I don't get done with the kids in the house. I can't remember the last time I went out with friends and have only been out once this year with my husband but this is my life and I take it one day at a time. I read a quote once that made me smile "Parenthood - the only time you can be in heaven and hell at the same time." Sums it up quite well in my eyes!

Heather - posted on 05/18/2012




So stop giving into their every whim and make them do some things for themselves. Tell them that THEY are responsible for finding their shoes, toys, etc. Try letting them help you make them dinner, etc. There is no reason why they can't and shouldn't be helping you out. "Me" time? What the heck is that? I wouldn't know. I have a 4 1/2 year old and almost 3 year old, and I am 7 1/2 months pregnant with our third child. I enjoy the few and far inbetween quiet moments when they are in bed. But they help me clean up, pick up their toys, make their meals, etc. Heck, lately, they are helping me with the laundry!

Stop serving them, they may surprise you with some alone time by doing things themselves!

Elfrieda - posted on 05/18/2012




That must be really hard. I have a really involved husband and I STILL feel like I never get "me time". The only idea I have is to buddy up with a friend who has kids and take turns having them for a day/evening to give each other a break. We've been doing that with some friends so that we can get out for a date every once in a while, or just do some yardwork without our ankle-biter. It's wonderful, especially if the other people's kids are your kids' ages because then they can be friends. I find that it's no more work to have an extra kid or two, because they entertain themselves.

Janice - posted on 05/18/2012




My "me" time is after the kids (2.5 years &5 months) are in bed. I sit on the couch watching TV and/ or with my laptop and eat junk. Unfortunately I will be losing my time soon :( I need to start working and since we can't afford daycare I will be working at night (not sure when I will sleep) and I am dreading it.

Bertina - posted on 05/17/2012




I totally understand my family and my husband's family never takes our son to give us a break. It's very frustrating

Katherine - posted on 05/17/2012




My mom watches the kids when I work, so I don't want to ask her. So that really leaves no one....

Nicky - posted on 05/17/2012




I havent been out in 10 years to have fun with my girls. Well I went to the movies once with my friend recently but that was it. The only time I get "me time" is when I go tanning.. even though its only about 30 min i'm gone for I enjoy every minute of it! Then every other week I go get my nails done so thats about an hour of "me time" I wish I could do more but thats the price for being a parent :) I have a 60 minute full body massage I have to use but I havent had the time.. I could really use it..MAYBE I'LL CALL AND MAKE MY APPOINTMENT!! :)

Bertina - posted on 05/17/2012




My husband works a full time job working overnights and i work a part time job mainly in the evenings luckily my little guy still takes a nap for me otherwise i would go crazy sometimes lol i bet its even harder being a single mom ): Do you have any family that could take the kids sometimes for a few hours??

Melissa - posted on 05/17/2012




I am a stay at home mom, husband has a full time job as well as his own business he does on the side. I don't get breaks either. I don't even get a full Saturday. But what I have found is that having a 7:30-8:00 pm bed time helps me get the time I need to relax before I go to bed... have my glass of wine, take a long shower, sit and watch a TV show, or clean without the little ones pestering me.

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