Do you open gifts at a children

Mary Renee - posted on 04/30/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )





My daughter is turning 1 on the fifth of May and we're having a party for her on the seventh. My question is... do we open her gifts at the party?

As a child I remember opening my gifts at the party in front of everyone. It was part of the fun, I think, for my aunts and uncles and grandparents to see how much I liked their gift.

Naturally though as I got older, opening gifts (well, maybe even receiving gifts) fell to the wayside. And in my teen years and early pre-baby twenties, birthday parties were just an excuse to get drunk and the only gift you were likely to receive was alcohol that the gift-giver would promptly open and start drinking.

SO, at my daughter's first birthday, should she open her gifts? Or do we just thank the person before we open it and then open it later? I know there are photographs of me opening gifts at my second birthday, but I can't remember my first (obviously). I don't know if it's different since my daughter would need "help" opening them and I can't imagine a situation where adults open gifts in front of each other. I have no idea what the etiquette about this is. What do you think, Mamas? I do not have a preference one way or another, I just know I'm a bit younger than most of the other moms that will bring their kids to the party (24) and so I just want to do what is right/polite/expected!



April - posted on 04/30/2011




On my daughter's first birthday we opened one gift at the party, the rest we opened at home and i was 20 at the time (22 now :p). It's just for me i find it such a hassle because my daughter was still young and wouldn't understand anyway. I just thanked the people who gave gifts and left it at that. The majority of it was clothes anyway and i just know that if i had opened them at the party people would have asked me to try it on my daughter. GAHHH! LOL

Just do what you prefer, you might find that when the party begins thats when you can finally make a decision whether you want to open them there or later. :)


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Karen - posted on 05/01/2011




for sure open them! your babe may be finished with the first one (especially if it's a toy, she'll want to play) but open the rest for her, and make a point to make sure she looks at them once you open them (i opened them and then said "ooohh look gage, it's a _____. and he would drop the one he was playing with to come explore the newest one)

Elfrieda - posted on 05/01/2011




Open them at the party! The gift-givers want to see the baby's reaction to them, and it will be funny when she likes the tissue paper best. :)

I personally feel a little put out when I give a present and the person just puts it away for later. I want them to be excited, and open it right away! :) Also, if you open them afterwards, you'll have to write thankyou cards, whereas if you open them in front of the person who gave it, you can just thank them in person, telling them exactly why you like it and how your baby will probably use it.

Becky - posted on 04/30/2011




At my son's first birthday party, we opened all the gifts during the party. Mostly because, even though my son had no clue that the gifts were for him, the gift givers wanted to see their gift opened and admired. Shopping for a little one is fun, and the gift giver probably wants to share that with you. I say open them. It doesn't take that much time and you'll have happier guests.

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