Does she have to stay dry all night in order to be potty trained?

Tanya - posted on 04/18/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )

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She is 2 and a half and another mother told me she has to stay dry all night in order to be potty trained and I have been trying for 2 days so far and no progress. Should I give up and wait until she stays dry for more than an hour or keep trying?

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As someone who has been working in child care for 10 years that is the first I have ever heard the need for the child to stay dry through the night.
If a child can stay dry for 2-3 hours in the day then they are ready to start potty training in my opinion.
You get them comfortable with it during the day and then start aiming for dry nap times and the final phase which can take up to a full year (longer if they have small bladders) is going dry through the night.
Every kid is different. Some can go dry through the night as soon as they get a hang of the whole going during the day time, others not.

Either put her in pullups or a diaper for bed time and work on the potty training during the day.
I found taking a child every 30 minutes to go try helped keep accidents to a minimum and also helped them recognize faster when they actually needed to go.

Hope this is helpful!

Good luck!

Allison - posted on 04/18/2010

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I would not worry too much about the night time part, and just use diapers then. If you just gently remind her not to pee in her bed each night, she'll catch on eventually. Our son stayed dry through the night at about 2.5 years old - just after he was accident free in the day - but he has no problem waking us up to take him to the potty if he needs to during the night, lol !!! He is a VERY light sleeper, and the night-time dryness is the ONLY silver lining, I tell you what! But he only has to go a couple nights a week - usually just waits til morning.



All we did to (gently) encourage him was to make sure he went potty right before bed, and remind him not to pee in the bed each night - "Remember, if you have to go pee, don't pee in the bed, but get up to go potty." Once he was accident free during the day, we started putting him in underwear at night, but we also got a waterproof matress cover for him and had a few accidents at first, but not in the last few months.



All kids are different, but I would stick with diapers or pull-ups at night at LEAST until she is fully potty-trained during the day for a month or more. One thing that we found really useful is Dappis diaper covers - like plastic underwear that you put over the regular underwear. You can buy them online really cheap. They don't catch everything, but help prevent big messes when you first start them out in underwear (day or night). Good luck!

Storm - posted on 04/21/2010

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My boys were potty trained and as soon as they stayed dry all day they just stopped wetting at night. Once they got it, they got it. I would not wait until she is dry all night but I would limit drinks before or at bedtime to prepare her for night time potty training.

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Some kids are dry at night before they potty train, some achieve night time dryness around the same age that they potty train, and some aren't dry at night til much, much later. My girls were fully out of pull ups during the day a few months before turning 3... probably could've been earlier, but I didn't want to deal w/ frequent accidents x2. ;) They didn't start staying dry at night w/ any consistency til they were 4.5 and still wet the bed on occasion (getting rarer and rarer as they got older) til they were 7, almost 8.



My son turned 2 a month ago. Some nights (not very often) he stays dry all night. He has started potty training himself, but I have a feeling it's going to take a while. I'm encouraging and helping him, but won't actively be potty training him unless he is still in diapers when he turns 3. :)

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Some kids aren't able to stay dry at night until 6 or 7 (or even older), but are just fine during the day. You do not have to wait until the can. Could you imagine a 7 year old running around in diapers? :)

Sarah - posted on 04/24/2010

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Wait. She's not ready. Just because some children are ready early doesn't mean that should be the benchmark. You'll know when she's ready, and the thing is, you have to be ready too, because it requires a consistent commitment from both of you. Good luck!

Megan - posted on 04/23/2010

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My oldest son didn't stay dry overnight until he was 4 1/2 and my 2 year old has been daytime potty trained for 2 months, but is nowhere near staying dry overnight. Waking up to go to the bathroom comes later for most kids. don't stress it.

Kimberly - posted on 04/23/2010

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Take her to the potty every half an hour and put a pull up on her every night until she get a hang of the day time stuff. If she potties in the potty during the day she is potty trained! I know of kids that still wet the bed when they were in grade school. Believe me you both are doing a great job. Hope this helps.

Tracy - posted on 04/23/2010

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All kids are different. There are a lot who would say wait to potty train at all until they are 3yrs, but I believe that is a huge mistake. You should at least try it earlier since some kids are ready and some aren't. My daughter is 2.5 and I would consider her about 85% potty trained during the day. She is in big girl underpants most of the time, with an occasional pull-up if needed (she did fine using both and was able to distinguish between a pull up and a diaper, but I know some kids can't). But, she is only dry all night about 2-3 nights a week when I can get her to pee right before bed. She is a super deep sleeper so she won't wake up if she needs to pee. I am not worried about it. It will come in time.

Louise - posted on 04/23/2010

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I wouldn't worry about the night-time at all. As long as she is dry in the day that's the main part sorted. I have four children and I have never pushed the nighttime dryness - my youngest is still in nappies but the other three wore nappy pants to bed and eventually, maybe even as late as four years old, they were dry.... no hassle, no upsets.
The alternative is everyone being disturbed in the middle of the night with an upset child, and sheets to change - which only adds to your washing pile.

Rhonda - posted on 04/22/2010

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My daughter is 2 and is potty trained during the day and through nap time, but she still wears a diaper to bed. I have 3 other daughters who went through the same thing. Only one of them stayed dry all night from the first night she went to bed without a diaper, but she was 3. My oldest didn't stop wetting the bed until she was 6 and her pediatrician said that was normal.

Avelina - posted on 04/21/2010

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I started to potty train my son when he was 18 months, of course that didn't work out. I think that it does help, but my son just learned to potty in september, that made him 2 years and 7 months, I had him in pull ups since he was 18 months. In september I got him to potty in 3 weeks, with the help of my fiance (not his father)...bring her to me, I'll take care of her...lol. No just be a bit stern, try and make her go right after she eats or drinks something. Also pay attention to her pee and poop signs...when you notice that she might have to go, take her to the restroom. Sing, play, but make sure she stays on there until she goes. When she does praise her. Give her hug, clap, give her a treat or toy. Let her know that its awesome she went potty all by herself.

Jennifer - posted on 04/21/2010

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Keep trying don't give up. It will happen sooner or later. As for waiting till she stays dry all night don't worry about that until you have the day time down fairly good and then give her the choice of diapers/pull-ups or underwear for bed and she just might surprise you.

My daughter did that to me one night she didn't want to put the pull-up on so I put her to bed with just underwear and she made it all night with no accidents and shortly after that she was completely potty trained both during the day and night and she was just over 2. So hang in there and always be patient and never get mad when she has an accident.

Melissa - posted on 04/20/2010

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I consider my son potty trained even though he still has to wear a pull up at night. He can take his self to the bathroom, doesn't have accidents and is dry through nap time. Some kids have a hard time waking up in the middle of the night and bed wetting runs in my family. Yes, bed wetting is hereditary and is a medical issue, not just being lazy like some people think.

Sheri - posted on 04/20/2010

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My daughter actually stayed dry all night before she could during the day. They all learn at their own pace. At our daycare, once they stayed dry for a month during the day, they "graduated" the child to potty trained status.... Don't worry, it will come.

Quintana - posted on 04/20/2010

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She's still to young to stay dry all night. My son didn't start staying dry all night until he was four. I guess he felt more comfortable going to the bathroom at night. Just get her some pull ups and eventually she'll stay dry through the night. Don't worry or get stressed out.Goodluck

Dee - posted on 04/20/2010

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as far i know night-time dryness is the last thing to " conquer ". if your childs showing an interest then start potty training. dont wait for night time dryness, take it slow, let your daughter take the lead in this. even if all u get on her pottys a trickle give lots of praise and persevere. if u push her itll only lead to her demonising the potty and more accidents. Good Luck can u keep us posted?

Annie - posted on 04/19/2010

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Get potty training in the daytime sorted first, night times are a bit trickier. I used to make sure the potty was always where my boys could get to it quickly and every time they managed to get to it in time they were given a reward (a couple of chocolate buttons or a few raisins) and loads of praise!! When we were at home and the weather was warm enough I'd leave them without a nappy or pants on (its good to let their skin breath and it saves loads of washing!). One thing not to do is stress about it!! Kids have to build muscles in order to gain bladder control, so make sure she drinks plenty of fluids to help her along. Personally, I wouldn't recommend pull-ups, as a lot of children just treat them like they're wearing a nappy.....but they cost more! Keep using nappies at night until the days are dry. If you're really lucky nights will just fall into place, but don't worry if they don't. When the time comes, make sure you have some sort of waterproof sheet to protect the mattress. When we did the nights with our boys we used to have a cut off time for drinks and, obviously, made sure they went to the toilet before bed. Then we used to lift the lads when we went to bed and take them (half asleep) for another wee. The main thing to remember is patience. Good luck! x

Bridgette - posted on 04/19/2010

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Potty training happens in phases. When you child recognizes that need to go to the bathroom, they are potty trained. As far as keeping dry at nite, that is different. Start with reducing liquids at least 1 hour before bed time. Have your child use the potty before going to bed. Later on, wake them up at night and take them to the potty. Don't stress out about it. Like someone mentioned earlier, it is not until their older, they children gain full control over their bladder urges. My three year old is potty trained but at night, I have him put on a pull-up. It helps with their self-esteem when they make it to the restroom and avoid accidents. The next morning, he goes to the potty first and the pull-up is dry. He then puts on his underwear. At this phase, you are just helping to build on what they already have learned. I also have night lights in the hall and bathroom, so they can get up and go at night. Just take it one step at a time. Above all, do not add pressure to yourself and your child, it has the opposite effect. The more relaxed and confortable your child is with using the potty, the more progress they will make. I am currently working with my 4th child (all boys) with one more to go. You know your child. Just be consistent and take your time. I am rooting for you both! LOL!

Erin - posted on 04/19/2010

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Nightime dryness is a function of bladder size and not control for most kids who don't sleep light enough to get the signal to go. And a kids bladder often does not grow to a sufficient size to hold a full nights worth of urine until up to six years old so be patient, mother nature has to do this part for you just keep up the good work on the day time part which is the only part you can help with (I almost said control, then thought of my daughter, and laughed at that and changed it)just make sure to leave on enough light between her and the potty at night that if she does feel the urge to go while she is sleeping and it wakes her that she won't be afraid to try to get to it or put a portable one in her room

Tanya - posted on 04/19/2010

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She would have too many accidents while out I had to stop sippy cups in bed because thats what relaxes her so its like taking a bottle away from her all over again

Carla - posted on 04/19/2010

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No they don't have to stay dry at night to be potty trained my son is 3 1/2 and only stays dry during the day.

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Staying dry at night comes later than staying dry in the day (normally). My son is 3 in May and is only just starting to become interested in the potty. They have to do it when they are ready and if they are pushed it causes stress for both the child and the parents. I say don't worry, let her do it in her own time and you will feel much happier.

Sarah - posted on 04/18/2010

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The main reason why people say to wait until they are dry all night is just a way to judge if they are ready or not to train. Kids have to developed the muscles for control. So that is the easiest way to judge if your child has that control or not. Most times they will not be consistant with waking up dry, so they might be dry one night but wet the next. Potty training is going to take awhile. Most kids it takes weeks to months before they are trained during the day (night time training is usually longer). As to if you should give up or keep going depends on you and your child. Do you feel she is ready and wanting to potty train? If yes, then keep going. If no, then wait until you feel she is ready. The big thing with potty training is staying consistant. Potty training takes a LOT of time and COMMITMENT. If you are back and forth with doing it sometimes but not others then it will be 10x's harder to train them. Potty training is a process, so there are going to be accidents. Some kids have more than others. One thing I do advise is that once you get going with it DO NOT do pull-ups DURING THE DAY. Pull-ups are great for overnight when you are working on day time training, but for day time training they are too much like diapers and kids tend to use them like diapers and take longer to train.

Amber - posted on 04/18/2010

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My daughter just turned 2 on April 10th and is potty trained during the day. She does wake me up sometimes in the night when she needs to go but not always. She will get there though!She won't do it until shes good and ready!

Jessica - posted on 04/18/2010

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Just remember we all get there sooner or later. My son is 4 and is ONLY potty trained during the day. He doesn't stay dry every night. My son's problem is he sleeps very deeply and doesn't wake up when he needs to go. Keep plugging away, she'll get there.

Samantha - posted on 04/18/2010

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Tanya, don't worry....children aren't avaibable to stay dry until three years old, if you need, get this training clothes (half pamper, half underwear) that can help with this accidents. Then be patient, she will make it!!...when she gets ready

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