easy frustration

Destiny - posted on 07/25/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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so my son is two and a half and gets very easily frustrated by certian things... im not sure what I should be doing to help him!

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Elfrieda - posted on 08/12/2012

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If it's just the blocks, I'd take them away for a week (not as a punishment, just as a frustration preventor, do it while he's sleeping) and see if he's better after that. If it's all his toys, every time he throws one, put it up on the fridge immediately and tell him, "You threw that toy. No throwing toys. Mommy will put this toy away." Then it's gone until tomorrow, put it in the toybox after he goes to bed.

At least, that approach worked well with my two year old.

Spazzer070 - posted on 08/12/2012

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Well when He is playing with his blocks and they don't stay up he gets mad and throws them... if things are doing what he wants them to do he gets mad and starts to scream at them throw them and lay face down on the floor whispering to himself... When i try to help he gets more angry because i am in the way... I am not entirely sure what is the best and most effective way to approach this!

Elfrieda - posted on 07/27/2012

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If it's puzzles or toys that are too hard for him and causing him frustration, I would just take them away for a month or two. For things like the carseat, my son has a job and I have a job. He clips together the chest clip "Thomas's job" and I do the other clips and tighten it. "Mommy's job".



For making coffee, my husband has him help do the same things every day, put the filter in, turn the grinder on and off, and pour the coffee grounds into the filter. He's not allowed to pour the water, etc.



I find that if he has very specific things that he knows how to do and that I let him do (oh-so-slowly) every time even when we're in a hurry, it cuts down on tantrums, I think because he feels somewhat in control, but not totally in charge which would be scary. When I add new things to his list of "Thomas's jobs", like recently taking off his own shoes and putting them in the basket, I hang around and coach for a while but eventually he knows what to do and feels proud of himself, which cuts back on frustration tantrums, too.



If it's just something like something doesn't work for him the way he thinks it should, I'll remind him to try again, and this time I'll help him so it does work, or if he's trying to do something like balance a ball on top of a triangle, I exaggerate how impossible that is and try to make it funny that it always falls down. Or if he's just being difficult, won't let me help at all, and is tantruming for no other reason than that he's having a bad day, I tell him to stay in the other room until he's ready to eat/obey/put on his shoes. I really don't need to hear it, it just puts me in a bad mood, too. Also, if I'm around and he hits me or something, then he's in even more trouble, and his life gets even sadder, poor thing! Better for him to work it out on his own.



If you can teach the phrase, "Help please" your life will get easier. :)

Nicola - posted on 07/27/2012

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My son used to get very frustrated, often at that age. He still gets frustrated and now he's four. For example he seen some kids on youtube recently, climbing a wall in a bedroom doorway dressed in a spiderman costume. He immediately went to the doorway in my bedroom and tried climbing there but of course he couldn't because he is small. So we had to talk about how he needs to grow more because the boy on youtube was maybe 5 or 6 with a longer, stronger body and legs to reach the other side of the doorway. I didn't over explain I just said it was a big kid and that he, my son needs to grow bigger too.
It's made a huge difference now that his speech and communication skills have improved as we can understand one another. Obviously its still challenging but we work through things better.

I think this is a stage and the best you can do is to talk to him and repetitiously tell him positive affirmations.

Melissa - posted on 07/26/2012

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My son is 2 and a half and gets frustrated alot. He tens to throw things if it's not going the way he wants. I am trying to tech him to put the toy (or whatever it is) down and ask for help. Then I help him and then let him do it. It is starting to work although we have to be right there when he asks for the help or he gets mad and throws.

Amy - posted on 07/25/2012

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What type of things are frustrating him? My daughter wants to do everything herself (almost 2 1/2) and gets frustrated if she can't do it. We do our best to encourage her to do it and try getting her to let us help her but sometimes we just have to let her be. But if you provide us more information we may be able to help you a little more.

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