Experienced old school moms---Please help, my son likes the medicine cabinet

Cassandra - posted on 12/02/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 3 1/2 year old son has always been a well behaved child. We never had the notorious "terrible twos". But recently he has decided to do things, dangerous things, when nobody is looking. For example, just today while I was making supper he told me he had to go to the bathroom. I thought nothing of it. But instead of going into the bathroom, he went into my room. Our medicine cabinet is in my bedroom 6 feet up the wall. He constructed a step stool out of multiple overturned laundry baskets (I appreciate the building skills it must have took) and got out a bottle of my husbands prescription pain killers!!! He figured out the child proof cap and dumped them on my bed. I realized he hadn't flushed yet so I decided to check on him to make sure everything was alright. I found the pills and my son holding the bottle. Thankfully he hadn't taken any but he knows that is not acceptable. We have preached to him since he was very young the importance of leaving things like that alone. I spanked him (yes I spank) and sent him to the corner. After he served his time, I asked him why he did what he knows not to do. His response was "because you weren't watching." I don't know how to make him understand that these things cannot be done. He knows about danger and death and that medicine will kill you if you don't use it the right way. He knows that only Mommy and Daddy are allowed to touch the medicine. It isn't a matter of explaining it to him, nor is it a matter of securing them better. I don't want to have to buy a padlock for the medicine cabinet (though it seems to be coming down to that), I just want him to understand that the same rules apply whether or not we are watching...Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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User - posted on 12/06/2013

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you should read my other post,, as a mom of two kids and that has raised other kids there is no such thing as 100% child proof haha what do you think that teaches the baby/kids ??? the meds yes they should be put up ,, but for the rest no 100% child proof would be nothing but toys in a empty room cause a couch,chair,table and chairs etc can cause problems to,, and for the rest man ,, you need to teach your kids/baby that just because its there doesnt mean they can touch it ,, or are you the mom that lets their kids get everything in the store and touch everything??? or does your kids break things at friends house?? i just wanted to know
my son is 10 yo and my baby girl is 1 and i do the same with her as i did with him and it works

User - posted on 12/03/2013

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wow i would get the lock just in case but i worry if he's thinking like that cause you werent watching me then if you lock the cabinet what will be next?? the razors in the bathroom, etc?? i say this cause my son did this at age 10years old he was caught playing with the straight razors at his grandparents when asked he said cause they were there and i was Bord and stuffed then down the drain and didnt get hurt thank god,, but as to your son thats hard cause my son did that to about the meds but he would open them and toss the pills in the trash or toilet told me that I said they can kill you he said we no need that here , lol so i am thinking that he thinks its ok cause you do it ,,, i think your doing right by getting a lock and spanking him and the corner but if he tald you that i would make him stayin the corner thats not a good responds to what you asked him ,, he is being Socratic to you ,, and maybe if it happens again smack his hands not his butt his hands r what did it ,, with my son when i did spank him it became nothing to him so when i smacked his hands that had the meds in them he got mad,, you can do a test with a empty bottle on the counter so he sees it and if he gos for it you yell at him NO NO thats BAD and take him to the corner before he touches it ( i did that with my son to) make a big deal out if it everytime he gos for it or near it to cause you know one day you will be in a hurry and for get and he will think oh look what i can get but if you scare the crabp out of him lol so to speak they will start to come to you and say hey mom why is the meds down thats what i would do thats what i did with my son a lot i know it sounds bad but my son at age 2 only ran way from me once and only messed with my pills once cause of what i did,, you asked lol

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User - posted on 12/09/2013

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lol love that haha i think you'd have to put extra padding down on the floor but yeah my baby is gonna be 1 and i know she knows what NO means haha my son just took something that she was not aloud to have and she told him nonono lol was funny

Cassandra - posted on 12/09/2013

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Thank you Jenny, I think you have the better advice. I also went to nursing school and they taught us exactly what you said. That you need to teach your children that it is not ok, not to just take away the tempation. Because they are going to go to somebody elses house and what then? Also my son is very smart (he hacked my computer password by touching the keys that he saw me use the day before) so "toddler proofing" my house is really not an option unless I want to hire the people who secure the White house to come a wire my house to the hilt LOL.

User - posted on 12/06/2013

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yeah i know what you mean ,, but i do know that if you do as that other gal said and child prof your hole house you really cant do that and i would ask what if your kid gos to a family members house or a kids and they dont have a child prof house like yours?? what would he do ?? IM not getting on you i just wonted to tell you not to lesson to that gal cause i have two kids one 10 years old and the other will be 1 in a few days and there is no way i can keep this house compliantly child proof, you need to teach your kids that just cause its there doesnt mean you can touch it like when your in a store or a china store LOL you can touch thats why you say NO and at home make a deal about it ,, when i told you about my son not running away after once it was cause that once time i used the other hands to close the door of the van and it took him 10 seconds to turn and run out in the parking lot and i was able to grab his hair before a speeding car hit him ,, it was the first and last time he EVER ran away cause i made it bigger deal by yelling at him and them holding him saying i love him and im glad your alive scared the shit out of me but to this day he tells other little kids he sees running away from their parents not to even at 3 he did that i hate how people under estimate a kid lol at 2 my son found out how to hammer a nail in and how to screw and screw in and that you have to have a parent to walk across the street etc and a kid will not know unless you teach them the bad and good things ,, like about strangers what to do if you get lost in a crowd ,, when to call 911 and with me my son knew at age 2 that mommy can get sick and if you see me on the floor not moving you can use the phone and call this 911 and we practiced it so he would know and at 3 he knew how to tell the 911 to get to hos house he would say ok go left at the school and go three houses down i will be out side ,,, never say i kid cant do something and you dont need to do a child proof house plz lol they will not learn if you do that i have computers movies games everything like that and my baby at age 1 wil not t ouch them not even the tv or my cell phone its about teaching kids and again im not mad at you i just know others will read this to haha

Harlee - posted on 12/06/2013

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A 3.5 yr old does not really fathom the gravity of his actions. He does know how to get your attention ànd this time you were very fortunate. If he was mine, my whole house would be 100% toddler proofed and ALL meds kept in a LOCKED tackle/tool box, and in a place he was not privvy knowing. It takes a bit of work on your part but is just something ALL parents need to do to protect their kids. I kept my 'lock box' til mine were in their teens...and even then there are different medication issues for teenagers. I have never, ever kept meds in a bathroom medicine cabinet as bathrooms are damp and that is not good for any meds. Sorry, they teach that in Nursing school but not to the public. I think medicine cabinets are outdated...more for tweezers and clippers now.

Cassandra - posted on 12/04/2013

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Thank you for your advice. I hadn't thought of a "trial run" with the empty pill bottle. And now that you say that about your boy being worried because the pills could kill him so he threw them out; maybe I should have a talk with my son about that because he threw out a half gallon of milk yesterday because he said "it was on the counter too long, its yucky now momma" so maybe it was like that and he just didn't know to say that. He answered part of my question (*why did you do that? -Because you werent watching). When I asked him about the milk I said "why did you think it had to be thrown out?" after all he is only 3.

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