Extremely Pessimistic, Never Satisfied 4 year old?

Elisa - posted on 08/25/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am at my wits end and don't know what to do with my son. He just turned 4 two days ago and he's been on this crazy pessimism track for quite a while. Like enough is never enough. If I have oatmeal for breakfast, he wanted something else. Then he'll temper tantrum, scream, cry, and then run into his room and say "FINE, I'll just never eat again!" That's his saying for everything. "I'll just never have a snack again." "I'll just never ever want to be awake again!" (His response to naps). We can have a great day, go to the park, go to a children's museum, have exactly what he wants for lunch, etc. and yet we can be in the car on the way home and he'll want a snack. I'll kindly explain that we don't have anything to snack on in the car but we'll have one when we get home and he just freaks. He starts to temper tantrum and then he'll tell me I never let him do anything and never let him have any fun and the problem is that he really believes it. We will talk to him when the temper tantrum is over and he TOTALLY FORGETS all the fun things we did. Like he doesn't even remember we did them. He can't focus on any of the fun we had. All he can focus on is the absolute negative. Anything negative that he doesn't get what he wants totally erases any positive in his life. I feel like all I do is constantly try to calm him down because it doesn't matter what we do, he wants something else. He actually leads a pretty privileged life and I'm starting to wonder if he's just spoiled. Like we'll bring him for an ice cream treat and he'll cry and freak out because it wasn't the ice cream place he wanted, then he'll start his "I'll just never, ever eat ice cream again then!!!". I'm just exhausted by it. Is this just 2 1/2-4 year olds? His 2 year old sister is usually just happy to have the ice cream, or happy to be at the park instead of it not being the right park, etc. Is there something I'm doing wrong? Any advice on how to deal with it? I'm going insane!


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Katherine - posted on 08/25/2012




You aren't doing anything wrong. My 6 year old is the EXACT same way! She is whiny, has meltdowns all the time, says I never take her anywhere, she can never do anything etc...... It's always never and always. I don't know what to do with her myself. It seems the only way to keep her happy is if we are on the go doing something 24/7. OR she's glued to the T.V. My 3.5 year old is starting to act the same way.

Neither of them seem to appreciate anything :( I guess it's time we put our foot down! Tell them if they don't behave they won't go ANYWHERE. And follow through with it. That's the only thing I can think of.

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