Getting baby fall asleep without me

Amandabutnen - posted on 05/03/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a one year old girl who sleeps through the night but needs me to put her to sleep , i cant do the CIO method at it stresses me out and makes me upset.. Is there any other alternatives?

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Snow - posted on 06/07/2016

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I was in a situation very similar to urs and also had some reservations about CIO.... it is very hard to listen to ur baby cry and not respond, but it got to the point for me where it was taking me almost an hour to rock her, sometimes more... I would get her to sleep, but as soon as I laid her down she would wake up. After a couple of months of this I just couldn't do it anymore; I was beyond stressed and my baby wasn't getting the sleep she should. I decided to try a CIO method where u go in to sooth them at set intervals. the first night I went in after 2, then 5, then 7 mins to start, then every 7 minutes after for the first night. After 2 hours she was asleep. The second night I went in at 5, 7, 15 minute intervals and she was asleep in an hour. The third night I planned to go in at 10, 15, and 20 minute intervals, but it wasn't necessary to complete as she was asleep after a half hour. The fourth night she merely whined for 7-10 mins then went to sleep on her own. After that, she never cried or whined, she just went to sleep happily without any fussing. When I'd go in I would stay for 2-3 mins while I sung her a little song and rubbed her back, but made sure to never pick her up and to leave after the predetermined period of time whether she was still upset or not. It was very tough to do; I know what u mean when u say it is stressful, but I can honestly say it was both the hardest and best thing I ever did for both me and her. She learned a valuable new skill that she will use for the rest of her life, and though it was frustrating for her to learn, she is not only more comfortable when it comes to bedtime, but actually excited about it! She smiles and waves goodbye to me as I turn out the light and leave the room, then promptly lays down and rolls over and goes straight to sleep. She seems to take pride in the independence of being able to put herself to sleep and I honestly regret not doing it sooner. For me, I'm very proud of her for figuring it out herself; as parents we want to teach them how to do everything, but for some things I guess they just have to learn on their own. I love how bedtime has become an enjoyable and happy experience and no longer stressful in the least for anyone involved. Everyone is different though, and so is every situation, but for me those 3 horrible nights were worth the result. I just tried to remind myself that sometimes as a mother i have to make the hard decisions; that not doing something because it is stressful for me, is not a reason to deprive my daughter of the opportunity to learn a new skill. I'm not sure if this will be helpful to u, but regardless of the avenue u choose to peruse, I wish u the best in finding a solution that is both effective and fits the needs of ur family.

JoJo - posted on 05/21/2016

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I physically lay with her she touches my face while her eyes are closed to make sure i am still there

Lily - posted on 05/12/2016

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I had that issue and couldn't do CIO either, but I finally used the Jay Gordon gentle sleep training method with my 20 month old. The first two days were tough, but it got much better quickly! Hope you get some rest soon!

JoJo - posted on 05/05/2016

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I have this same issue except she's 2 and almost 2 and a half. (Dec 2013) ...
It is becoming an issue to my partner and I because she won't listen when we tell her to go to sleep

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