HELP! Feeling exhausted and lost...

Noreen - posted on 08/06/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi, I have a 2 1/2 boy and a 6month old baby. Recently we took away my todder's pacifier and started potty training (there was some time in between). He was deeply attached to his pacifier and with it he took long naps and slept all night, we were spoiled. Now he refuses a nap and will cry and have a meltdown or just play in his room. I have taken out most of his toys in the room except for the items that bring him a little comfort now that he does not have the paci. During the day we try and keep him busy so he is tired but no luck! Early evening is awful he has a bad meltdown-hitting us, crying, won't eat etc. This has been going on for 2 weeks. His meltdowns wake the baby up and keeps me from spending time with him as well. Night time he is getting better but will play in his bed for good 2 hours before crashing. We have tried walks, later bed time, rocking him, etc. He needs the naps still he is exhausted and looks so tired. Is it all related to the paci? He is doing ok with potty training but has only been a week. Doesn't seem bothered by that. He will go back to day care in September hoping that will help get him back on track.

Any body have any advice for us? I want my sweet boy back :)

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Noreen - posted on 08/06/2013

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Thank you for all of that great advice. We did do the special toy for giving up the paci which he sleeps with and I am all about routine and structure. So is he, he enjoys it so I am sure no paci hurts that. Thanks
For trying and I will remember to use some of your phrases the next time I am upset :)

Victoria - posted on 08/06/2013

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Hi, Im Victoria. I have 1 daughter (1 yr) and 4 beautiful step children. I also went to school for Early Childhood Education.I've worked in daycare for 4 years and have seen this situation many times. Losing a paci is very hard for young children. My suggestion would be to take him to a store and say "You were such a big boy giving up your paci that mommy and daddy want you to pick a special toy to have a night with you. By letting him pick a toy or stuffed animal he feels secure in that its his decision as well as your reassuring words. As far as napping and bed time. I dont know if you have a routine but they are extremely effective. Children want and need structure. My daughter who is 1, we have dinner, play for 20 mins (to let food settle), bath time, read a book, then she gets her monkey to lay down with. BUT she only gets monkey at nap or bedtime. Its exclusive to those times so she can understand what time it is and what shes going to do. Transitions like taking the paci are very hard for parents. You know its best for them but it still breaks are hearts and frustrates us too. Be strong and more importantly consistent. When he throws a tantrum walk away so that he sees you ignore bad behavior. (Its hard but very effective to stop it quickly) Give him 3 mins and go back and say "Mommy needs you to use your words so I can understand you." Use leading questions like "Are you upset its bedtime?, "What will make you feel better?" You are doing great. Parenting is not about being perfect, its about loving our children enough to try. Keep up the great work, hope this helps :)

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