Help getting toddler to bed???

Kristy - posted on 01/29/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




I breastfed my son until he was 2 years old. He slept with me because I worked during the day and it was just easier for me to get some sleep having him in bed with me. Now he is almost 4. We are no longer sleeping in my bed. He and I sleep in his bed. I want to get back to bed with my husband alone. Any suggestions on how to get my son to sleep alone in his bed? I have tried reading to him, sitting with him, laying down for a minute with him (I usually end up falling asleep and staying with him) and just leaving him alone. Nothing is working. I need help!


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Kim - posted on 02/07/2011




I know you are probably going to hate hearing this but you will probably have to let him cry it out for a few nights. It should only take 3-5 nights but it takes patients on your part as a mom. In the long run it will be better for both of you. For him to get a better nights sleep and better for your relationship with your hub. You can do it!

I too co-slept. There comes a time, when its time. The key is reassuring them that you are not "leaving" them. Sit next to the bed, and let him hear your voice every 5 minutes or if your coice seems to excite him maybe just touch his back every few minutes. I had to stand outsie the door to get my son to fall asleep on his own. The first night it took 35 minutes, next night 10. The third night he was out immediately. Also, we often play relaxing music for him or even a sound machine is a good option. He is older so it may take longer. Just keep up what your doing and be strong! Good luck.

Betsy - posted on 02/07/2011




I would set your alarm on your phone and just fall asleep with him like normal. but after your alarm goes off, say like after an hour, make sure he is still asleep and then get up and go back to your bed. That way he starts out slow and gets used to you not being there in the middle of the night when he wakes up. Do that for a week or so. Then start laying down with him until he's sleepy but not quite asleep and get up then. There might have to be a little tough love here. He might freak out for a minute, but if he's really tired he might go to sleep. I'd ease out of it that way. When my girls stopped taking their pacifiers they had a really hard time getting to sleep and that is what we did. In both of our cases it is like an addiction that needs to be broke.

Toni - posted on 01/29/2011




It is going to be hard because you left it for so long. All I can suggest is to try and get him to fall asleep on your lap at the end of the day then put him to bed alone. If he wakes up during the night and gets up, just pick him up and put him back in his bed. Dont get angry with him, just reassure him that you are here and you love him.
After a few days, try putting him to bed just before he falls asleep.
It will be difficult, and frustrating, but just keep at it and he will eventually get there

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