HELP!!! How to get my 19 month to sleep through the night??

Corinne - posted on 01/24/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




As a baby I was so lucky with my daughter; she slept so well from day one and at 3 months was almost sleeping 8 hours stretches. Needless to say I was spoiled esp with her being my 1st child. A few months ago when she was learning to walk and getting teeth all at the same time she went through a bout of waking up in the middle of the night and it would take forever to get her back to sleep sometimes having to sleep on the couch with her just to stop crying. The doctor said that at that age its normal for them to start waking up again as their brain is on overload so. We got past that she did good for a few more months than a couple of weeks ago she started all over again. Some nights like 1 or 2 times a week she may actually sleep through the night but all others it seems she gets up at 12:30-1 AM. Mind you we havent changed anything lately and her bed time has always been the same 7:45-815PM depending on bath and all that jazz. I know there are so many methods out there and I have tried a lot. Tried the cry it out method it just doesnt work for us. She gets so upset she gets sick which is never good, we did the pick up and rock but as soon as we lay her back down she wakes up and screams again. We currently have we let her cry a little as we sit on her floor just so she knows we are there than we will lay her down and sit back down so she understands she has to lay down. ANd sometimes we will lay on her floor so she understands but as soon as you move or make a noise she wakes up and freaks out. We have a night light in her room and everything. I guess its just more getting frustrating than anything as her daddy and I take turns everynight but I feel so bad for her as she doesnt get much sleep at the moment. And the doctors just keep telling us its phase that nothing is wrong with her so. Any advice or have any other moms gone through this?


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Elfrieda - posted on 01/24/2012




It sounds like you're doing it right. Be firm but not mean, make sure she knows that night time is not play time. If you do get her out of her crib, don't talk to her in sing-song, don't let her out of her room, don't sing fun songs with her, just be a mixture of soothing and boring. Eventually she'll stop. I hate the week after my son has been sick - he's in the habit of waking up, so he does it even when there's no need. Usually we go to him for 2 or 3 nights and try to reason with him, sing, give him a snack, try to make him happy, and then we let him cry it out.

I haven't had to do this, but I totally would: get a mattress or some sofa cushions and put it in her room, tell her "Mommy's sleeping, now it's time for you to sleep", put in some ear plugs, and go to sleep. That way she can see you and get some reassurance that way, but you still get your sleep. After a night or two of that, she might accept it and you go back to your bed.

(It might be better for your husband to do that - it seems like I'm the only mom who loves sleep enough to nod off when my baby is awake, but every dad I know (except my husband) can sleep through anything.)

Laura - posted on 01/24/2012




Does she take naps durring the day? if not that could be a period of relaxation time for her and night time may not be so stressful. and if she does take a nap maybe move it to an earlier time. both my kiddos get their nap at noon everyday on the dot! (ages 21 months and 3 years). My three year old when he was a little younger got up frequintly in the night too, it was VERY stressful, but he did it b/c of chronic ear infections and once he got tubes in his ears he slept all night from then on out, so make sure she dont have any ear infections! But it will all pass and she wont still be doing it when she is a teenager so no worries! :)

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