Help! Is my 3 year old too friendly????

Amber - posted on 05/02/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My little girl is very touchy-feely and super communicative. We can't go ANY where with out her engaging every person she sees in conversation. I think it's great that she's so outgoing, but it's a little much. Not to mention the obvious concern....How am I ever gonna get it across to her that you're not supposed to talk to strangers? I don't know what to do and to be fair it seems we can't go anywhere with out tons of people talking to her too so it's not just one-sided, but I need to find out how to get her to understand that being friendly and outgoing is fine, but there are limits.

Also I was told today by her teacher at daycare that she's touching/petting the other little kids and wouldn't stop it when the teacher told her to and she mostly hangs out with the little boys....She likes to put her hand on people in a very gentle way and talk softly to them. It's sweet, but is there a time a place? and how do I get that across to her?


Louise - posted on 05/03/2012




I have the same problem. My daughter stands out from the crowd as she has a mass of blonde curly hair, which people seem drawn to and want to rubble with thier hands. She is now 3.5 years old and says good morning to every body she meets and tells them her name. She is so friendly I just dont know where to start with the stranger danger training without frightening her. It really does worry me! I dont want to knock her confidence or scare her. I have started to read some library books to her about going off with strangers and not to talk to strangers in the form of the story Little Red Riding Hood.

Annaleigh - posted on 05/02/2012




As long as she is only talking to people (and you don't live in New York) I think it's perfectly fine. My daughter was a little chatterbox at that age too. Being sociable is frowned on for toddlers, but then when the kids is 5 and going to school everyone thinks they need MORE socialization. It WILL balance out. Just teach her not to GO with anyone, "stay with momma", "hold momma's hand", and the like. Is it a problem at daycare? Most kids are very feely at that age, if its not a problem I would just watch it and let it go. If it is a problem teacher her to keep her hands to herself at school..."Its school manners, you have to be respectful of others feelings and personal space, so don't touch other kids without permission." or something of the like.


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