Help me get my Angel back and take this little monster away!

Courtney - posted on 03/19/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Hey Everyone,

My daughter was sick with a virus all of last week. She will be 2 on April 27th. She was catered to and babied most of the time, considering she was so congested she had trouble sleeping (couldn't breath when laying down) and ran a fever for 3 days. She is better now, but we took her pacifier away for the duration of the cold mainly because she wanted nothing to do with it. I thought, great, we can finally get rid of it and it won't be so bad. But, it has been horrible. I don't know if it is because of the lacking pacy or what. She is very demanding, wants CONSTANT attention and refuses everything. It has been 4 days of this and I really don't know what to do anymore. I am at work now and my mom is taking care of her and dealing with the same thing. Is this the terrible twos? Or just a phase that will pass soon? How do you handle it, moms? Sometimes, I really question the logic of having a kid!! I mean, honestly, we have 75% of our day spent throwing a fit and/or screaming!

Thanks all!

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Kandi - posted on 03/22/2011

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this is a phase, its very very important to encourage her to communicate..when daughters went throught this and now my son, once they started to "pitch a fit" or "refuse" everything..I make a point of getting down to there level so that we are eye to eye and saying " please use your words" I used sign language with all my children as it was easy for them to communicate to me what they wanted when they didnt know how speak yet....patience is also very very important...I also say " show mommy" if words or signing doesnt work let them take your hand and show you what they want or need...good luck

Anne - posted on 03/20/2011

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Also consider that she had EVERYONE'S undivided attention when she was sick and now that she's better, everything has gone back to normal. Woould you like that? Most people would not like giving up that sort of attention. Unfortunately, you just have to persist and not give in to her. If you say NO then mean it and don't go back on your word. She's starting to realise that she's a little person all to herself now and not an appendage to mummy and so is starting to demand things, attention etc. Also tell others that look after what she's doing and so they know how to handle her as well. Good Luck! Welcome to toddlerhood!

Liz - posted on 03/20/2011

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They shouldn't call it terrible twos its like puberty for toddlers because their going through hormonal changes and it happens at different ages for different kids one of mine skipped it and the next was barley one when she strarted still the next was three and i swear my most recent started his before his first birthday.

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Elizabeth - posted on 03/30/2011

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I'm glad things are improving for you both. I hope you feel better soon.

Time outs don't work for all children..you will find something that does and then stick with it, I'm sure.

Courtney - posted on 03/30/2011

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Thanks everyone for your kind words. Things have been better lately for me and my dd. She has been without the pacifier for over 2 weeks and does not ask for it. She still carries on in the car when we go somewhere, but only for about 5 minutes. She has started taking her naps without a fuss as well. Still very clingy but I think she is still sick. I just got hit with it a week ago myself and if she felt anything like I do, i really understand all temper tantrums! I feel like throwing them myself right now, feeling as crappy as I do!

The only thing that I have encountered is that time outs do not work at all. She just throws a bigger fit if you walk away and close the door to her room.

Oh well, keep trying!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/22/2011

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Rest assured Courtney that almost everything with kids is a passing phase..unless it is due to poor parenting then the parent has to change their behavior for the child to change his/hers (Which I am certainly NOT suggesting is your problem).

I have an almost 5 yr old and a 2 yr old and we are expecting our 3rd daughter June 1st. One of the most astonishing things I have learned from being a parent is that ..whatever is bothering you today ..you probably won't remember in 3 months as ever being an issue. Kids go through phases like they go through diapers.
Also, keep reminding yourself that your kids WILL grow up. Having kids isn't a permenant state of being.

Now to address the whining..this has worked for our home. My 2 yr old is more than capable of speaking and telling me exactly what she wants and I am sure yours can too. If this is the case..when she whines for something..correct her by saying "I'm sorry..I cannot understand you when you speak like this (immitate her whine)...if you need something ask mama nicely."

Erin - posted on 03/20/2011

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hey it could be many of the things in which you have listed up about but i would say either a phase or the fact you have taken away her pacifier its hard and withmy kids i just had to not give in to her by giving her back the pacifier as it will make it even harder when it you go to take it off her next time you want to take it off her, just do the best you can and i wish you all the best and hopefully if shes anything like my kids it should last to long best of luck

Brandy - posted on 03/20/2011

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yeah it sounds like the terrible twos, mine started at about 14 months i think, its just hard at first because its so sudden but once you get a good discipline routine down it wont be so bad, i always found it best not to make a big deal out of the tantrums, i would just walk away or remove jenna from the room to show her i didnt like that behaviour and something that might be helpful is the more you say no the more they will say no, at least thats been my experience every kid is different. we try to phrase things differently by saying whats not nice or what she can do instead or what direction we want her to follow, example, put your feet on the floor as opposed to no get down. and now that jenna understands time out its so much easier, we dont call it time out we just tell her to go to her room and she does and when she comes out she says shes sorry its nice because now if she starts acting up i just look at her and say do you want to go to your room? and she'll either say no or sorry and its over. haha its so cute. hope this helps a little.

Rachel - posted on 03/20/2011

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It is a phase some kids go through it and some dont obviously your little girl is. Believe me i thing most moms go through wondering about ther logic of having kids. lol Just take it one day at a time and try not to get too stressed. I have a 13 month old little girl who is the most demanding child i have ever met. I am just glad her older brother is not like this or i would lose the remainder of my mind. Good luck

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Terrible twos. My daughter is never sick and she is like that. And don't worry, I questioned the logic too. In-fact I remembered that I never really liked children anyway... I am hoping it is a phase. I don't think I could do this forever X___X

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Terrible twos. My daughter is never sick and she is like that. And don't worry, I questioned the logic too. In-fact I remembered that I never really liked children anyway... I am hoping it is a phase. I don't think I could do this forever X___X

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