HELP! My 4y/o keeps pulling her hair out!

Jennifer - posted on 12/30/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 4 year old daughter keeps pulling her hair out! I honestly don't know how to stop this. She sucks her thumb and normally just twirls her hair.. and with that comes the pulling.. I've talked to her doctor about it and he said it's just a phase. I need help! Her hair isn't growing and it's getting really short on the side she is pulling.. Please if you have ways to help im willing to try anything! I've given her dolls with hair but it doesn't matter to her! She seems to get worse when she is stressed out or upset about something.. Please help!

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Heather - posted on 01/01/2011

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i know this can be very frustrating. I have a friend who had a daughter with the same problem adn she was told that it is an anxiety symptom. The Dr. suggested anxiety meds but my friend did not want to put her 2 yr old on anxiety meds (i don't blame her) so she did some more research and found that often anxiety can be reduced and hair pulling will stop. Some things to try are:
Reducing thing in her environment that are stressful to her.
Helping her learn to vocalize her stress.
Lots of physical contact, cuddling, rubbing, listening to her.
Increasing her nutrition as much as possible (eatting as many fresh vine rippened raw fruits and veggies as possible. Juice Plus is a good way to do this naturally and inexpensively, if you want more info on that please feel free to email me hchopkins@gmail.com)
Geting as much outside time and sunlight as possible.
getting unnatural foods (dyes, preservatives, etc) out of diet.
you can look in your area to see if there are kids yoga classes which will help her learn to breath out stress and have another way to disapate stress.
You can also try some behaviour modification (for example if you see her start to twirl her hair then make a pop sound or something with your mouth and and remove her hand gentley adn rub her back or her hand and gentally redirect then after doing this for awhile you could be at the other end of the room and just make the popping sound and she will learn to get her hand out of her hair without you having to redirect or move her hand. just be gentle and loving about it so she does not pick up on stress and cause more stress and anxiety. Good luck...it may be a phase but it is ok to work on small steps to hurry the phase along :o)

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hello, i was a child who pulled my hair out at a young age to the extent i had bold patches all over my head that couldn't be covered. mine was down to child abuse at an early age and not being resolved and i am still doing it now at the age of 19 from the age about about 3 i did grow out of it for a couple of years but started again I'm sure nothing like that is happening to your daughter but could be down at stress at school with other children bullying like emotional abuse in a way and is know to be a cause of OCD if that runs in the family hair pulling can be a part of that. i know this was posted 2 years ago and she may have stopped but it could happen again at an older age. if it happens again or is still happening try to keep her preoccupied with active things like drawing cooking together playing outside with friends having friends over the hair pulling for me tended to be when sat not doing anything like watching tv reading a book when your brain is not concentrating u then start thinking about the problem and then start pulling hair out look for hair at the sides of bed or under sofa's either rolled up into balls ur brushed under to hide it from people. if it happens again don't shout or get angry like my mother did it makes things a lot more worse and stressful talking and reassuring is the way to go. i hope she has stopped because its horrible to go through it alone and as you get older doctors tend to do nothing and don't help iv been to the doctors many times and they keep telling me to go back in a couple of month just because my mum chose to blame me for it and didn't get me diagnosed by a doctor to get the help needed

Regards Lydia

Rozlyn_ramirez - posted on 06/18/2011

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Hi Jennifer, I don't have any solutions but did want to tell you that you're not alone. My 4 year old daughter does the same exact thing but she does it when she's tired. I think she's doing it to relax her. The doctors say the same thing to me but it is quite frustrating. We find clumps of hair everywhere, everyday. I'm considering buying her a wig so she can wear that when she goes to sleep and she can twirl that. I do like the yoga idea and will give it a try hoping it works. Have you tried it? I'm going to give it a try and will keep you posted.

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