Hiding when pooping

Lori - posted on 01/30/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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My son as been potty training since he was almost three. He pees in the potty all the time , but he rarely poops. He keeps hiding under under his bed or wherever he can find a place that we might not notice that he is doing this. I don't want to get mad at him, but he thinks this is funny and tells me he is sorry as soon as I catch him. We have had to clean his carpet because he keeps doing this. Should I punish him for this or just be patience and hope he starts going in the potty. He is a very smart little boy and talks and acts olderthan he is sometimes. I just don't want to discourge him, but I need him to quit pooping on everything.

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Shannon - posted on 08/03/2011

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Were having the same problem with my 4 year old grandson. He won't pull his pants down but he will go in his underwear. He'll go pee just fine. But if you don't catch him before he has to do #2 he'll be someplace hiding going in his pants. And when you catch him in the act. He says I gotta go poop!!! This is driving my son and daughter-in -law insane. Any advice??

Sejal - posted on 02/03/2010

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My son is 3 yrs and 1 mnth and even i have the same prob. He does not poo in a potty and hides or sits quietly in a corner while doing his deed. I have tried scolding and rewarding also, but no luck yet :( can anyone suggest something?

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Our son did a similar thing. We finally figured out he was CHOOSING to do this, so we sat hi down and told him that if he decided he didn't want to use the toilet that was fine, it was his decision, but Mom and Dad were not going to clean up the messes anymore. He would have to do it. So the next day, he pooped in his pants. I took im i hte bathroo, hd hi take off his soilded clothes, had him wash otut his pant inthe toilet, wipe him self down (it was bath time later so I knew he would be getting a good cleaning later =: ) then had him put all his dirty clothes in a bag, take them down and put them in the washing maching (I provide the stool so he cold reach)./ Needless to say there was a lot of crying, moaning and creaming. I let him go on, just remindig him that this was his choice, mom and dad didn't put the poop in his pants. He did it one time after this with the same results for him =: (( and has never done it again!

Colleen - posted on 02/06/2010

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My little guy also used to hide when he pooped. He used to hide and do it in his underpants! They say that some children (boys especially) don't like to poop on the toilet or potty as it feels like their tummy is dropping out of them and it's a bit scary. Makes perfect sense if you consider that pooping in a diaper is close to the body so they don't feel it. A lot of children (my son included) ask to have a diaper on to poo and may well be for this very reason!!



I was initially understanding and would encourage him to use the toilet rather. I would then also make him empty the contents of his underpants into the toilet and then wash his undies himself hoping it would discourage him using them like a diaper. I tried a star chart for when he did use the toilet BUT when the hiding and underpants pooping continued I had to get nasty and voice my sincere disappointment and later disgust at what he was doing.



When he realised that it was no longer funny or an 'oops' and was becoming an unhealthy habit that was no longer acceptable, he made an effort. I set up a small book and magazine library for him in the bathroom and that seemed to help distract him while he was doing his business. He's 9 now and spends ages in the toilet reading his book when nature calls......just like a typical male!! LOL

Christelle - posted on 02/15/2010

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My son (Zander) will be turning three on the 20th of Febbruary. We've been potty training since last year October and now have the peeing part under wraps (yeah!). We do however battle with the pooing part of the training. My husband and I decided to be patient and focus on a reward appoach so we are making a huge poster where we celebrate peeing success with stars and will be handing out huge stars for pooing :-) We jokingly call it the poo chart :-) Point is that after a certain amount of stars we reward him with a special family outing to a petting zoo or a movie or something he really loves. I've also discussed this with his teacher who mentioned that it is common for boys to battle with pooing whereas girls usually get it right quicker. Maybe moving the potty under the bed is an option or just making a big fuss of success! Good luck! :-)

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Mandie - posted on 03/31/2012

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Mine is doing the same thing and he pees on everything too like a dog. He went as far as going on our back porch and poopin and peeing instead of in the potty.

Michelle - posted on 02/15/2010

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Hi, I went through the opposite with my daughter, now 5yrs. She used to poo in the potty but we everywhere. She thought it was funny, and used to say time to wash the floor mummy. I used to punish her by putting her on the naughty step and taking away her toys, I told her she could have her toys back when she went on the potty or toilet. I then praised her and did a funny dance, which she copied. Within 3 weeks she was using the toilet for pooing and weeing. I hope this helps.

Missy - posted on 02/09/2010

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My girl, who is 6 yrs old now, wouldn't poop in the potty she would hide or whatever. But with her luckly she didn't like having the diry diaper on her but you could never talk her into it or rewards nothing would work. Finally a couple of months before she turned 4 yrs old I took a week off from work to have time with her. The first day I was home with her she pooped in her diaper/pullup so when she came to me wanting it off I laughed at her and done anything I could that would make her understand that it wasn't good to do that. I had tried everything before but on that day when I laughed at her and hid in the bedroom & held the door so she couldn't get me I laughed harder & told her that her diaper stunk she started crying but I knew that if I went a little bit longer then it would end. Sure enough I never had to change her diaper/pullup again (not unless an accident at night) but she would always use the bathroom. I told my friend this same story and she tried it with her boy & it worked as well.... So best of luck

Robertdia - posted on 02/08/2010

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yes i did stand in the bathroom with until he learned how to poop in the toilet if i didnt he would get down and start hiding again it worked and now he goes by himself my son was afraid so i had to reasure him it was ok to use the toilet thank u very much

Petina - posted on 02/06/2010

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After my whole explanantion about my daughter - she came home from play school on Friday and said she needed to poo and she didn't have her nappy on - so by chance I said lets go to the loo, and she did and she made her first poo on the toilet. I don't know who got more excited me or her!! So I guess, patience pays off. I also said I will tell her grandpa (whom she idolises) that she is a big girl and made a poo so now she has been trying everyday now to poo in the toilet, and then she says "you must tell grandpa" ... Good luck to everyone still trying - it will eventually come right!!

April - posted on 02/05/2010

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Are you standing in the bathroom with him when he's on the potty? If you are, he just might want some privacy that's all. Try standing outside the door quietly so he doesnt know you are there. Also, you could reward him when he poops in the potty.

Robertdia - posted on 02/05/2010

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my son did the exact same thing i had to make him sit on the toilet one day i caught him and tell him it is ok to poop in the toilet it take a few times but he got it lol

Petina - posted on 02/04/2010

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My daughter is 2½ years and has been going to daycare where they are potting training and I have been to let her completely get use to the idea of making wees in the toilet before pushing the issue of poos. So at the moment she also hides away when she makes poos in her nappy and her wees are made in the toilet. From what I have read it is quite a thing for children to understand the concept of using the toilet as they have been weeing and pooing in nappies since being born.
I do encourage Emma to use the toilet and when she does we do get really excited and make a big fuss. I don't really believe in briding my children and they will eventually use it against me.
So I think we should just be patient and just encourage them to get use to the idea...

Becky - posted on 02/04/2010

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Well, my son goes to daycare 2.5 days a week and he doesn't seem to care about other kids going poop. I try to remind him that he needs to be a big boy like daddy and poop on the potty, but he says, "No, big boys poop in the diaper!" LOL Gotta keep a sense of humor about it!

Janelle - posted on 02/04/2010

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i had problems with my son too regards poos and my 2 yr old daughter would pee any where she felt like, despite my greatest efforts - but i would like to point out that pooing in private or hiding is quite an instinctual thing for humans to do. we adults go in privacy and hide in a way and back in cave man days you would go away from the tribe to do your business - so that part of it is very normal.

*bribery with lollies or reward chart (my daughter wanted ballet shoes - so when she did 10 pees in toilet she got ballet shoes etc)
*amass of positive reinforcement
*some slight punishment when they know what they are doing is wrong - this could be no dessert or no dora on tv or time out -(find what your child loves the most)
*yucky pants
etc
etc

for my son i tried all of the above advice from others, one by one , all at once, and i think it was a culmination of all of those things that helped -

however my greatest aid in getting him toilet trained (especially for no 2s) was to show him other BIG boys going to toilet at day care - i enrolled him one day a week just to boost his confidence and see others doing it too (plus at day care they had those little kids toilet and basins and he thought that was ace. it only took about 3-4 weeks and he was done. i dont have any probs with either kid now.

good luck - it can be a very difficult task to tackle - be patient but be firm

Becky - posted on 02/03/2010

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My son just turned 3 in October and he's been peeing on the potty non-stop since before then. As for going poop, he asks for a diaper when he has to go, so I guess I should consider myself lucky. That said, he has pooped on the potty, but for some reason, he just won't do it now. When he says he has to go potty, I try to talk him into sitting on the potty, but he generally says no, no, no. I don't want to push him, either, so I go ahead and put the diaper on him. I've had people say not to change it right away and that he'll get tired of feeling the poop on his butt, but it doesn't seem to bother him! Also, he doesn't have any problem just standing in the middle of the living room to poop--he's not hiding at all.

I'm going to read some of the other replies and see if I can get some help with this issue, too! Thank you for bringing up this topic and thank you for all who responded!

Nina - posted on 02/03/2010

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I'm old school, too. I'm not saying to punish them, but my daugther actually did this, and my ped said to put the cloth training pants on her. That "it was too easy" to go poopy in the pants when they were changed like a diaper. She always went peepee in the potty. It grossed me out, but it worked. Everytime we would have to go in the bathtub, and pull down her pants (really gross), and clean it up off her. The cloth makes it feel yukky, and the entire cleaning up process I made a real pain. Though I didn't use verbal abuse, I was very firm that this is what babies have to do when they poop in their pants instead of big girls who go potty. Hope this helps.

Sunshine - posted on 02/03/2010

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As crazy as this sounds it worked for me - Let him run around naked. Some of my fellow Mommies suggested this too me as this was their method. I thought it was crazy but it worked! It worked better than bribing - I tried stickers, promises, candy.... But by letting him run around naked there is no security (diaper or underwear). Then when he goes make a HUGE deal about it. Mason actually wanted to save it for when Daddy got home from work because he was so proud - lol. Thank God he got home in about 10 minutes. Good Luck!

Heidi - posted on 02/03/2010

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yea i'm a mom of three well when my 1st was little she use to do the same thing she would go hide well i started briebing her with candy or stuff she like. just say if you go poop on the potty like a big boy mommy will give you some ice cream or candy or even do something fun when my daughter would i would do that and i made up a little potty dance and start clapping my hands and start jumping for joy so she knew she did a good job hope that helps you out..............

Lois - posted on 02/02/2010

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Oh, man! You are a dear- My son hid in corners of the house, or behind drapes... But he associated poo with pain- always constipated... seems like yours poo's easily, eh? We hyped up cool underpants, and went with him to choose them (batman, etc....at walmart!;-)- then encouraged him to poo in the toilet so he wouldn't soil the new undies...cuz then we'd have to throw those very cool undies, and he would really miss them. We did throw out a few- but he really tried to make it to the toilet a lot more!

Kerry - posted on 02/02/2010

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I was at a friends once and she was telling me how her kids hids when they poo in their nappies. later on one of the kids had done a poo and I couldn't believe the words coming out of the moms mouth...eeeew thats grose, what a disgusting mess, your a rotten child etc....no wonder the kids hid when they did poos!!!
I'm not saying this is what happens at your place but handling things with a positive tone can get a better outcome. Obviously if he's deliberately doing it on a bed etc coz it's he thinks it's funny he should get an appropriate punishment but reward him with praise when he does it in the toilet or potty

Sara - posted on 02/02/2010

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when my husband was little he use 2 do this he would drag d potty behind d sofa of in2 a room where no1 was lol he noticed d signs wiv out son so i could of easily been in d same boat as u lol
u can get a chair potty from argos (even plays a tune when they go) n put it next 2 ur toilet n that will encourage him 2 go in d bathroom n use d toilet like a big boy he can even close d door, or get d all in 1 potty which goes in2 a step n little toilet seat 2 go on urs, thankfully im past that n just got 2 get mine 2 pee straight now lol

Kate - posted on 02/01/2010

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Maybe putting a potty chair where he would like it to be or even in the bathroom for only him to use. Maybe being a boy he doesn't like sitting on the toilet everyone else uses.?

Crystal - posted on 01/30/2010

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Wow.. you have way more patience than I do. I'm very old school, don't know if its because I was raised very strictly by my Hispanic father (Hispanic men tend to be very tough) or I just think kids these days get away with way more than they should ... but if that were my son... I would punish him. If he's thinking its funny, I'm thinking he knows he's doing wrong and doing it on purpose.



Have you tried "rewards" to get him to go poop in the toilet? I took my son to the store and let him choose what type of cookies he would like as a reward. He ended up picking the sugariest cookies out there - the soft cookies with frosting - but we only had to buy one package and by the time he was done, he was pretty much "trained" to go poop in the toilet. :)



Best of luck.

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