Horrible 2's

Diana - posted on 03/24/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 2 years old. How can I get her to behave in restaurants or out in public without throwing temper tantrum fits??

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Sarah - posted on 03/24/2013

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Sometimes you are not going to be able to avoid a tantrum. You can try to do things to prevent it from happening......explain what you are going to be doing/going before you leave the house and how you expect her to act. Keep your errands to a handful of things....doing too many things in one outing can make for a tired and fussy child. I also find that if I stay moving it works better then taking my time spending lots of time looking in one store or one area of the store. Make sure you don't try to do your running around during meal times or nap times. If eating out....pick a kid friendly place. Bring some things she can play with while waiting for the food. Colors, books, etc. Even having a snack with for her to munch on before the food comes can help....often times they are ready to eat as soon as you sit down. Have something that is healthy but does not fill her up too fast....I do cheerios.

But also know that even with doing all these things there still will probably be some tantrums. At 2 yrs old they are testing the limits and trying to find out where the limits are. It is also hard to understand why they can't having something that their eye caught and that looks fun. What I usually do is first try to distract. Is there something I am getting that she might be ok holding or playing with for the time being? Can I interst her in something that I brought with from home? Can she help me look for something or someone? If that does not work and the tantrum continues I then walk out and we go sit in the car with her in her carseat. We don't leave we just sit. She can have her tantrum and when she is calm and ready to act nicely we then go back in and finish what we were doing. I will say there are some times when I am not able to do this. Even if I am the only one with her and it will take me longer getting things done I do try to sit in the car and haver her throw her tantrum.....but if that is not possible.....I ignore the cries and screams finish up my shoppping as quickly but calmly as I can and then we head home and she goes down for a nap.

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Rachel - posted on 04/01/2013

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I always say "my first mistake was giving birth to my own genes". My step sister has the calmest kids- mine think public places are an invitation to go feral. It doesn't last forever. *hugs*

Kelly - posted on 03/31/2013

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You only go to restaurants that are loud inside. :) And bring LOTS of things to entertain her. Then you just keep on trying to be firm and consistent and hope that soon it will pass. Sometimes at 5 I still deal with my son's temper tantrums in public. Fortunately they are much fewer than before. Of course, I also have a 3 year old and when one of them starts in, the other is sure to join in... sometimes mothering is really hard!

Sarah - posted on 03/25/2013

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LOL hang in there. It does pass. My middle child was not much of a screamer, but was strong willed. Well, waiting in the check out lane at Wal-mart (which means you might be standing there for awhile). She decided that she wanted a toy that they so love to put in those lanes just to annoy the parents and have the child throw a fit. Well after staying "no" she decided to throw a tantrum right there and a loud one at that! I was lucky that my husband was there also.....he picked her up and carried her out of the store to the car while I paid. When I got to the car he said you would be amazed at how many people stare and a man carrying a screaming child out the door. I had to laugh because I could just imagine that....and I was SO glad it was not me doing the carrying. Then I thought that is kind of scary because not as many people would look at a woman carrying a screaming child out the door. That is when I thought you know maybe it is a good thing when people look......not that I want the attention, but if it was a different situation I would sure want people looking.

Diana - posted on 03/24/2013

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Omg I thought I was the only one with a loud screamer.. Oh and she's my first so you know how I feel when I'm out in public. One time we were at tgi Fridays having dinner and you know how loud restaurants are at night she decided to scream as loud as she could the whole restaurant went quiet for a good 2 mins lol. That's when I took her to the bathroom disciplined her and walked out lol..

Sarah - posted on 03/24/2013

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So true. I am on my third and still feel like I am trying to figure things out. Each child is different which brings new and different challenages. My third is a SCREAMER!! She has the LOUDEST scream I have ever heard! And when she wants something or does not like something out comes the scream. I am glad she is my third because I don't get so embarssed in stores or out in public when she screams. If she was my first I would be horrified. There are still times when I am like Oh MY GOSH I can't believe you just did that.....screaming at her brother in the middle of church service :)

Diana - posted on 03/24/2013

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Thank you so much. It's so hard raising your first child thinking its easy but truthfully parenting is the hardest thing you can do. Getting tips from other moms is just simply stress free:-)

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