How can I get my 2 1/2 yr old to stop yelling

Marissa - posted on 06/16/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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PLEASE HELP! my son is 2 1/2 and for the last 2 months or so he has been going through a screaming stage. I have tried almost everything- spraying water in the face, throwing cold water in the face, flicking his lip, taping his cheek, taking away what ever he is playing w/ when he yells, spanking, holding him in a bear like hug, time out, putting him in his room and closing the door. Nothing is really working and I am out of ideas. I don't want my son to be out of control and I don't want to be that mom in the store w/ the screaming kid lol. Please any suggestions that worked for you kid?

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Suzanne - posted on 06/29/2010

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Play the "whispering" game... especially when he's yelling... start whispering your responses to him... and soon he'll quiet down and listen to what you are asking him... I can't hear you and don't understand if you are screaming at me... "what do you want"? if you add "Tiptoe and Whisper" then he will start to tiptoe and whisper around the house... it's going to take some practise, and if he responds you can add,... whispering "ice cream".... for the tiptoe champion.... (it's worth a try)...

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Emily - posted on 06/18/2010

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My son, also 2 1/2 does the exact same thing. And, I've been wrestling with the very same thing the past few weeks. What is starting to work for me is I put him in his room, close the door for a minute or two-then open the door, and tell him he can come out when he is done screaming and yelling. Then, I just wait. It seems like it goes on for forever (he is strong-willed) but he eventually comes out of his room, and hugs me. then, I tell him I love him, and try to calmy figure out what he wanted in the first place. Hope that helps you...

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Angelina - posted on 08/26/2012

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my son funny he screems then he puts his finger over his mouth and shoushes.he knows what hes doing.i got two boys so if one dose it the other starts.it can be stressful.and has nabors complain.dont know what to do with these 2.lol!

Jessica - posted on 07/01/2010

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have u tried doing like what they do in preschool and kindergarten? at my house if my 2 yr old and the 2 yr old i babysit are not listening i stand in the middle of the room say ears and point to my ears and when they stop what they are doing i talk to them. it helps if u make eye contact. or try whispering extremely low. that way he has to stop screaming to hear you.

or are you sure that it isnt a problem with his hearing?? my brother had 25 ear infections before his first birthday and needed tubes in his ears so he could hear. he would yell and scream when he wanted something, didnt talk till he was 5, and used sign language to communicate what he wanted. it may be worth talking to the doctor.

hope this helps.

Marissa - posted on 07/01/2010

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that sounds like a really good idea I think he will catch on quickly and he would start whispering too, thanks!

Marissa - posted on 06/21/2010

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I have been trying the time out in his room and closing the door only until he is done yelling but while the door is closed he throws things at he door like shoes or whatever he can find. I suppose I cud remove the things he throws so that there isn't anything for him to throw but I kinda want him to learn not to throw stuff when he is mad.

Donna - posted on 06/18/2010

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My daughter was never a screamer but from all the things I have read you really don't want to react. He may be trying to get your attention even if it is negative. I would remain calm first and foremost. I would acknowledge that he is frustrated or whatever he is feeling at the time in a very supportive, calm voice. I would keep in mind that as a 2.5 yr old he doesn't have the tools to allow himself to be heard, understood, get what he wants which is the goal of every toddler. It's what they do. Anyway, after I acknowledged him & his feelings I would explain the voice you would like him to use because you can understand him better then. I don't believe in hitting or other means of "punishment" because it only demeans him and is an outlet for our frustrations, not his. Parenting is not an easy job. Children are not here to understand our adult world yet and we can't have expectations as such. It is our job to guide, parent, etc. Good luck! BTW I can suggest a couple of really good books if your interested.

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