How can I keep my 13 month old from screaming at the refridgerator???

Rebecca - posted on 10/03/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




I need to know if anyone has any tips on what to do. I will be feeding, or just get done feeding my 13 month old and he will run to the refridgerator and say "bite" and if I don't get up or if I tell him "no" he starts screaming and crying. It's very frustrating especially if I I just feed him or gave him something to drink.


Heidi - posted on 10/03/2012




Kids that age just want what they want when they want it. You don't have to meet every demand, but you can acknowledge his frustration. My daughter is 2 1/2 and she does similar things (with a lot more language skills). It makes me crazy. Sometimes ignoring it is the best way to make it stop. The more you interact (lots of words, frustrated tone of voice) the louder they scream and carry on.


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Bobbie - posted on 10/03/2012




He is simply trying you. At that age the goal is to get what they want just because they want it. It is our job to set limits and boundaries. When he is finished eating take him out of his seat and carry him to the next room. Taking the fridge out of his line of vision. If he returns and says "bite" gently walk him away from the fridge. There is no need to say no to him. Simply remove him from it. If he continues to go back to it and scream then I suggest you look at your behaviors that he may be mimicking. do you stand in front of the open fridge for long periods of them and say things like "get a bite to eat"? You may need to modify your behavior as well

Melissa - posted on 10/03/2012




Be thankful he can't yet open the refrigerator and find his own snack! I think they only get worse as they get older! Mine just turned 3 and just figured out how to open the fridge, I often find him with fruit and string cheese and he doesn't seem to have figured out how to shut it! (but that might just be a boy problem... :-D)

But more seriously-I try to determine if he is in fact still hungry or not and give him food if he's hungry, but if he has refused to eat something and is just looking for other options I tell him no. When I tell him no I try to explain to him calmly why I said no and then when he starts screaming or throwing a fit I just try to ignore it. I think it's just something that they will hopefully outgrow, but in the meantime it's important to stand your ground and if you say no stick with it so he doesn't think screaming is the way to get what he wants.

Rebecca - posted on 10/03/2012




Yes!!! the more I say no the more he screams. I have tried ignoring him but then I start feeling bad and thinking he may actually still be Hungary or thirsty! But I guess I need to just ignor it all together and not give in.

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