How can i stop my 3 year old and 2 year old to stop hitting and biting?

Brittany - posted on 07/31/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Can someone help me on getting control back from my 3 yr and 2 yr old. They are hitting and biting sometimes kicking. It has gotten wrose when they came back from being with their daddy over the weekend. My 3 yr will bit other people and just go up and hit them for no reason. I don't know why she does it but she does. My son will bit for no reason too. The one time he bit his 9 month old sister. The hitting is everyday i tried so many different pushinments but nothing seems to work. I did time out and taking stuff away from them and it doesn't phase them at all.


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Brianne - posted on 08/10/2012




You may not like this but I learned very young that if I bit someone I got bit back. I had this issue with my girls and the youngest would bite the oldest out of frustration. We eventually told the oldest not to tattle but to just bite sissy back, sometimes she would. Otherwise I would bite the youngest. I understand these days we teach non violent ways to discipline out kids but in reality if they don't understand that it hurts how will they know to stop? Now with the hitting and kicking I do not do that back or tell mine to do that back. They will get a time out, get separated or redirected from the frustration that caused them to hit or kick in the first place. It's not easy but it is a phase I think most kids go through and yours are at the right age. My daughter has for the most part stopped doing those things and I think it's because she can better verbally express her frustration to her sister. They still fight like cats and dogs and I do not stop it until they come to me. Siblings have to fight it out sometimes.

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