how can I take pacifires away?

Britta - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I have a three year old and a 15 mo old and I toke the pacifire away from my 3 year old for 2 mos well as you can tell that didn't stick she chewed her nails down till they bleed so now I think to get them off of them but, I'm scared to now please help thank you

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Stephanie - posted on 01/05/2010

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2 suggestions.... one that worked and one that I am told is best, but didn't work for us at all! Wait, 3 suggestions, we used 2 together, I guess.

1. (Didn't work for us but I have heard is successful for most) Cut the tips off all of them. I suggest a back up stash in case it doesnt work, but in theory, cutting the tips off will make them feel awkward in their mouth and they will quit on their own.

2. Make a big deal of packing them all up for children that don't have any because yours are big now and don't need them. We did this with our 3 yr old and the 15m old kept hers but the 3 y.o. still gave hers up... in conjunction with:

3. We offered "chewers" for about a week. A "chewer" was a really soft flexible spoon (whole thing balled up so there was no metal or hard anything - for safety). Lilly was allowed to sleep with it in her hand and chew on it IF and only IF she needed to during the night. She held on to it for about a week and then told us she didn't need it any more.

The full details: At 2.5 yrs she was limited to 3 pacifiers total that were never allowed out of bed. At that time we packed up all the other pacifiers to send them to children that didn't have any. Then, on her 3rd birthday there were no pacifiers, only a chewer. That first night was rough, but after that she kept the spoon for about 1 week and then gave it up on her own. We talked about what was going to happen for a long time. She, at 3.5 yrs, still talks about how pacifiers are for babies. We are getting ready to start this process with the little sister, now 27m, and Lilly is very excited to help.

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Kristi - posted on 08/20/2011

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You have to remember that a pacifier was given in the first place to replace your willingness to offer the breast. Some children will nurse longer than others, and therefore have a stronger need to suck for a longer period of time. I think that if you offer a pacifier in the first place, you have to be willing to let the child give it up on her own time. I feel the same way about nursing, so I will back my argument up and say that children should be allowed to nurse as long as they feel the need. You should remember that nursing is mechanically designed to help elongate the jaw and eliminate overbite by encouraging the forward thrust of the lower jaw while a child is growing. As a bottle fed kid who went through years of orthodontics, I recognize the bite correction that occurred in my own kids who nursed until they were 4 1/2 and the youngest still nursing at 3 1/2. I'm happy to continue the minimal nursing/sucking demands she requires if it saves me the cost and trouble, nevermind the discomfort she'll experience with orthodontics! New research backs this up. Unfortunately, this doesn't hold water with pacifiers, which have been shown to have exactly the opposite effect, due to the unnatural sucking they require (not forward jaw thrust). Guess you'll just have to offer the breast! :)

Rosliza - posted on 01/12/2010

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i put my son on ''cold turkey'by removing and throwing every single pacifier at home. Oh yes i have few days of sleepless nite coz he wakes up crying. just be firm and put him back to sleep. You have to be very patient. Never ever give in. Children are smart, once you give in they will do it again when you try to stop them. With regard of chewing the fingernails, Blend bittergourd and wipe it on the fingers of your child. the bitterness will keep them off the fingers. Hope it helps.

Amanda - posted on 01/09/2010

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My girls never did that the passy but I have had soem friends that bought this spice (nothing hot or anything just taste nasty) and would put it on the passy and once they stick their tongues to it they would throw it away

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My daughter was 3 when she finally gave hers up. We got all of them together and placed them in a basket for the 'Pacifier Fairy' to give them to all the little babies who didn't have them. The fairy left her a toy and a note in exchange. She only asked about it for a few days and we just kept reminding her that the little babies had them and it would be mean to take it from them.

Chasity - posted on 01/09/2010

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take it away again....only this time go to cvs and get this jalepano nail polish. she will put her fingers in her mouth and be lite up. She wont do it anymroe. It sounds mean but it really works. And if she resorts to scraching until she bleeds like my brother put gloves on her. you will have to make sure she keeps them on though.

Andrea - posted on 01/09/2010

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I guess you could say that I was mean, we just threw them all in the trash, and she waved goodbye to them when the garbage truck took them away.

Carmen - posted on 01/09/2010

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My son was 3 1/2 when we left his for the baby reindeer last xmas together with the milk and cookies. Days before this we prepared him for it by telling him this is what we are going to do. On xmas eve he promptly got his paci put it next to the milk and cookies and went to bed. He asked for it once but never had a problem going back to sleep or anything. It was great.
Except you would now have to wait a whole year to use this idea though :)

Linda - posted on 01/08/2010

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My twins never liked the pacifier, never started! My youngest however was stuck on one when he came home from the hospital. (Nurses!) When he was about 7 months old he caught a cold, and his nose got stuffed up. He stopped using it all by himself.

I never offered it to him again, just put them away! Good luck!

Giseli - posted on 01/08/2010

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What my husband and i did w/ our 3 year old was telling her everyday that a paci was gross and she was a big girl ,so one day we were driving and my husband started telling her to trow that paci out the window because it was gross and she was a big girl,next minute she opened the window and there went the paci,we were sooo proud,she asked for it a couple times and we reminded her what she did,and that the paci was gone 4ever:)she never asked for it again.

Kasha - posted on 01/07/2010

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I have my 2 year old still stuck on a pacifier. He starts pre-school next week, so I'm hoping this will help ease the transition. Day one will be rough but Day three should get better.

Cece - posted on 01/07/2010

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my daughters went away cold turkey after the dentist could tell by her teeth that she still sucked one! but then someone told me about a method i wished i would have used/you cut just the very tip off for a few days, then a little more every few days until there is nothing left to suck. sounded pretty interesting to me, but im sure some littleones will notice & throw a fit!!worth a try!!

Arimaselis - posted on 01/07/2010

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i never had a problem with my son with pacifiers. he never liked them, but my mom use to tell me to put a mild hot sauce on the pacifier to make the child not take to it.

Lisa - posted on 01/06/2010

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We pretty much did the lost thing also. She was just turning two and we kept having to search around the house at nap time for them. So one day we just told her it was missing and she was fine with that. She asked a couple more times at bed and nap but no histarics.

Megan - posted on 01/05/2010

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The day before my eldest's 1 birthday I told him it would be his last day with his "binky" because he is going to be a big boy. The next day was so exciting for him that he totally forgot about it and we never had a problem.

Clarissa - posted on 01/05/2010

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We started taking my son's pacifiers away at 10 months old. We first limited them to only nap times and bed times and told him they had to stay in his crib. Then we started limiting them to only bed times. After that we started dwindling his supply, tossing one in the garbage each week. Finally when he was 1 we took the last one away and replaced it with a music box that hung on the side of his crib. The whole point of a pacifier is to soothe them to sleep so thats what the music was supposed to do. It was one of those really nice ones that lit up and had little moving characters. He was so fascinated by that that he totally forgot about the pacifier and never asked for it again. (although I'd still catch him in his sleep making sucking motions with his lips like it was still there!)

Melinda - posted on 01/05/2010

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My son's supply was dwindling, he kept losing them or chewing them up. He was down to one, then one day we were leaving his sitter's and he dropped it -- it fell into a drain in the street. It was perfect! We watched it go and talked about how it was just gone. When I got home I searched the house to be sure there weren't anymore around and that was it! He was two, he asked for one a few times, but I reminded him it was gone, fell in the drain. That worked for over six months until I had another baby and he freaked when he saw she had a paci. We've had to start all over with the added layer of sibling rivalry. LOL.

Lindsay - posted on 01/05/2010

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Take them away and tell her she is too old. A 3 year old can understand that even if they don't like it. Just be the parent.....

Nicole - posted on 01/05/2010

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Okay so this really does work, just take all of the pacies, well have your child help u round them all up put them in a ziplock baggie, and talk to ur child telling them that u r going to give them to a teddy or what ever they choose for a heart, we went to build a bear and built a baby bear and my son put them in place of where u would put the heart and he now sleeps with that teddy thinking that he is okay with that

Stephanie - posted on 01/05/2010

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Quoting Sara:

Cut the pacifier. Just take a little of the tip. Put her down and don't give it unless she asks for it. Then the next week cut a little bit more off. Do that until it is gone.



Maybe thats what we did wrong... i just cut too much all at once?  Lilly just thought it was funny to put her tongue in the cut tip.  Didn't phase her at all.

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Cut the pacifier. Just take a little of the tip. Put her down and don't give it unless she asks for it. Then the next week cut a little bit more off. Do that until it is gone.

Nancy - posted on 01/05/2010

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Have you tried putting bits of tape on her fingertips? Or maybe a sauce she doesn't like on the pacifier like Tabasco Sauce? The one that worked for us was taking it away during the day and letting her have it at night and then every other night until she was free of it. We also made sure that when she was completely off of it not to let her see hers again so she wouldn't want it. Just some thoughts, hope they help!

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