How do i cope, my daughters father died.

Kat - posted on 03/31/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 4 and her father passed away a year ago. The pain has not got any easier I think I've just got a little better at masking it, but I'm not the same person and I hate who I am now. I used to find it so easy to have conversations with people, such a people person, now there are times I don't want to leave the house; terrified of seeing anyone I know As I might have to have a 'pointless conversation'. I know it's not 'pointless' but when such massive things have happend I find it impossible to happily participate in mundane chatter. This makes me sound so bad I know, and incredibly grumpy. I wish I could have the zest for life I used to feel. This is a year on now and I just hope this isn't the 'new me' but I don't see how I can find a way out of this - I feel like I can't turn to friends and family because I get so anxious about just having conversions with people now. So I don't know how to make this better.. sorry if this sounded so self absorbed .. I realise I'm lucky to be here and have a beautiful daughter I just want to be back to my old self or at least the best I can be for her future and my own sanity.

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Cc - posted on 04/12/2016

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A year is not a very long time when you lose someone very close to you. It may take another year before you start to feel regular again. Have you considered counseling? It might help you to navigate through all your emotions. There's nothing wrong with you. You are grieving and need support and time to heal.

Dusty - posted on 04/12/2016

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Everyone deals with death differently and how your dealing with it is completely normal. It my take another year before you feel sociable but I'm confident that you can get back there if that is really what you want. You need to be the mother your daughter needs.

As far as talking to her about it. Did you know that a long time ago one of the regular actors on Sesame Street died and they made a video about it? The episode has gotten lots of awards. It has helped many parents talk to their kids about death.

Here is the link if you think it might help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxlj4Tk8...

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