How do i cope, my daughters father died

Kat - posted on 03/31/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )




My daughter is 4 and her father passed away a year ago. The pain has not got any easier I think I've just got a little better at masking it, but I'm not the same person and I hate who I am now. I used to find it so easy to have conversations with people, such a people person, now there are times I don't want to leave the house; terrified of seeing anyone I know As I might have to have a 'pointless conversation'. I know it's not 'pointless' but when such massive things have happend I find it impossible to happily participate in mundane chatter. This makes me sound so bad I know, and incredibly grumpy. I wish I could have the zest for life I used to feel. This is a year on now and I just hope this isn't the 'new me' but I don't see how I can find a way out of this - I feel like I can't turn to friends and family because I get so anxious about just having conversions with people now. So I don't know how to make this better.. sorry if this sounded so self absorbed .. I realise I'm lucky to be here and have a beautiful daughter I just want to be back to my old self or at least the best I can be for her future and my own sanity.


Mary - posted on 04/12/2016




Hi Kat! It sounds like your daughters fathers passing has had a lasting effect on you. You didn't mention your relationship with him at the time of his passing, but either way that has to be hard on you (and your daughter). My first and foremost suggestion would be to talk to a therapist. If you are unable to go to one, maybe a close friend or family member. Bottom line, in order to get back to yourself you need to find out what is dragging you down and make peace with it.

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