How do I deal with my son hitting me?

Tonya - posted on 08/26/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My "younger" son (I have twin 2 year old boys) hits me whenever he is unhappy or does not like something or I tell him no. What do I do?

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Carla - posted on 08/26/2011

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I have a 3 year old and he has started the same habbit. what i found is the naughty spot routine really helps. I sat him down and explained that hitting is naughty and unaccepteble. I then asked him if he likes it when people hit him. and he immidiatly said no... i then said to him that for that reason we dont hit others and will be punished by having to spend time in the naughty corner when he does it. i follow this up with on the spot questions during the day like. " what happens if we it mummy?" " thats right we go to the naughty corner" he feels proud cause he remembers the rule, but equally when he then hits me there is no warning, he goes straight to the naughty corner. spend 3 min there - i tell him that, its very naughty and unacceptable to hit your mummy. then i go back after three minutes and ask him. " what do you have to say to me?" sometimes he stropps and doesnt want to apologise, then i tell him he will stay there for another 3 min. and so it goes until he apologises. i've had to do this for an excese of 30 min because he just wouldnt apologise. but he did in the end. i normally then come down to his level and remind him why we dont hit. i tell him it makes me very sad when he hits me, that fact seemed to bring it home and then i give him a hug. then change the subject and go on with our normal routine. I'm unsure how vocal your 2 year old is, but basically id suggest taking a similar routine and just modifying it to suit your childs age. hope this helps, just keep strong.

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Jamie - posted on 08/27/2011

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say "NO, hitting is not okay" put him down and walk away. Say it in a stern voice and do not pick him back up or play with him for a couple minutes. after a few times he will know that hitting you makes you upset and should stop. I worked at a daycare for quite a few years and this is what worked with most of the kids in my class and with my daughter as well. Just please dont hit him back (not at all saying you are, just saying in general), that will confuse him since he's not allowed to hit but you are. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 08/26/2011

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I just started a conversation regarding the same problem.. I Hope we get some answers! I tell my daughter that it hurts me and she laughs. I am unsure of what kind of discipline works at this age (16m)
I end up ignoring her if she hits me. If I am holding her and she hits me, I p ut her down and walk away for a minute.

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