How do I get my 2 year old to fall asleep in her room

Lyn - posted on 01/11/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi mom's! My 2 year old insists on falling asleep in the lounge area... and it then takes her an hour to fall asleep... am I making to big a deal of it, is it ok for her to do this... I suppose I feel a bit annoyed as it has just been an hour of her screaming at the top of her lungs cuz I tried to get her to fall asleep in her bed. Even myself and dad lying there with her was not successful


Raye - posted on 01/12/2016




Have you talked to her to find out why she doesn't want to sleep in her bed? If there's an hour of fighting before she'll calm down, then make her bed time an hour earlier to compensate for the fighting and so she can get enough sleep. She should be sleeping around 11-13 hours a night (less if she's napping). However, around 2 years old, there's a sleep regression that usually happens. By now, your 2 year old knows that when you leave, you don’t just disappear. Instead, she knows that you’re off somewhere not far away, having (in her mind, at least) tons of fun without her. Understandably, she doesn’t want to be left out! If this separation anxiety surfaces as soon as you walk out the door during naptime and/or bedtime, it can disrupt your toddler’s sleep.

By age 2, your toddler is also becoming much more imaginative. This makes for really fun and entertaining play, but boy, can it ever be a problem at night! Most 2 year olds’ nighttime fears are triggered by the dark, and all the things that come with it — spooky shadows, monsters lurking under the bed, etc. By this age, toddlers are growing more aware of the world and realizing that there are “bad guys” and things out there that can hurt them. These new nighttime fears can lead to things like nightmares.

As with any regression phase, the best thing to do when you encounter these problems is to cope as best you can. Work hard to stay consistent, and try to remind yourself that it won’t last forever. :) Keep in mind, too, that you don’t want to your toddler to form any bad habits while you’re working on getting through the 2 year sleep regression, so let that guide your decisions about how you’re going to cope. You don’t want to make or continue long-term habits for a short-term phase.

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