How do I get my 3 year old daughter to not be afraid of thunder and heavy rain?

Christina - posted on 03/11/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 3.5 year old daughter has started to become afraid of thunder and heavy rain. It started months ago with thunder and lightening but has since moved on. It was only when she would go to bed at night when it was actually happening outside. We have talked to her repeatedly and given her the story about angels bowling and the flowers and trees needing the rain and she has even been to a huge hotel with a clock that has thunder and came back saying she was not afraid of thunder anymore but it has gotten worse. Everytime we put her down for her nap or to bed at night she asks about the "big wind", "big thunder", and "big rain"--even when there is none. We assure her she is fine, that we are all fine and she does ok. She started using it as an excuse to stay up or to get out of bed. Last night was something new. My husband was in the livingroom around 11pm and she came out of her room and snuck up on the couch beside him and went to sleep. He woke up and she said she was scared and he let her sleep on the couch. This lasted all night until 5am. He put her back in her bed and came to bed saying everytime there was thunder or heavy rain she was up and jumping. Sure enough, the storm started up and she came into our room. She is in there now, not sleeping, but never crying. I want to sympathize but at the same time I don't want a routine to start of her being in our bed or expecting someone will be up with her every time.She is the type of child that if you let her do something once it quickly becomes a routine and she will use it as an excuse and my husband feeds into it. My son is 12 and I never had this issue, so this topic is new to me.Please help!

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Erica - posted on 03/27/2012

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My daughter had the same issue. We ordered a book from amazon.com. It was Franklin and the Thunderstorm. helped tremendously! We even take it with us when there is a possible thunderstorm. I also had to get a little tough with her and say now mommy has told you it's just a storm. Nothing to worry about. Kiss her good night and let it go. No flashlight, no special treatment. If you treat her different then you are saying that she does have something to worry about even if your words are saying different. Good luck!

Erica - posted on 03/27/2012

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My daughter had the same issue. We ordered a book from amazon.com. It was Franklin and the Thunderstorm. helped tremendously! We even take it with us when there is a possible thunderstorm. I also had to get a little tough with her and say now mommy has told you it's just a storm. Nothing to worry about. Kiss her good night and let it go. No flashlight, no special treatment. If you treat her different then you are saying that she does have something to worry about even if your words are saying different. Good luck!

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Kirstin - posted on 04/15/2012

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My son was born in Brisbane in Aus and when he was just a baby I would race him outside in the middle of the storm so he wouldnt be afraid. Other than that I have no idea.

Michelle - posted on 03/26/2012

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I have 4 grandchildren from 3-8 who are afraid also. I get them to help me find the candles in case we lose the lights..then tell them we can play a game if they go out...at bedtime..i usually let them leave a light on so they wont see the lightning. I think its just a phase..i explained to my 5 yr old the other day..i said thunder is jut a noise..so why are you afraid of a noise and lightning cant hurt you cause youre in the house..other than that im stumped also..sorry

Christina - posted on 03/12/2012

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My husband and I have decided that we are going to talk to her with the next storm (again) and let her know that she is fine, that it only happens outside and that we won't let anything happen to her. She is safe and we will always keep her safe. We are also going to let her have her flashlight in her room so she can turn the flashlight on and see for herself that everything is fine. I am hoping it works. My son was easy. I explained the Angel's were bowling and lightening was Jesus was using a flashlight to make sure he can see all of the boys and girls in the dark. Never again did he have an issue, but this is just not sitting with my daughter.

Katherine - posted on 03/12/2012

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My daughters 3 and 6 are afraid also. I too have tried it's God bowling, and the whole nine yards. Nothing seems to work. I even tried to get them to look at the lightening to see how "cool" it is. Nothing has worked.



When I was a kid I was TERRIFIED of both. I would scream and hide and run to my mom. I don't know what to do either.

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