How do I get my 4 year old to listen to me without having to repeat myself over and over again until I get frustrated and start yelling?

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Kelina - posted on 10/31/2011

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Stop repeating yourself and if he/she doesn't listen then tell them what is going to happne and follow through. for instance no tv, no birthday party that night, a time out, a spank, whatever you feel like. And then-this is the important part that many parents don't do-follow through! when things get taken away they start listening real fast. They know how to get us to do what they want and the outcome they desire, stop playing by their rules.

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Kelina - posted on 11/03/2011

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she sounds a bit like my niece she drives me up the wall the same way. Have you tried talking to her doctor or a behaviour specialist to get some more ideas?

Jaycee - posted on 11/03/2011

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when i tell my daughter to stop doing something or i have already answered her question, i make her stop and look at me (that way i know i have her full attention) and then i either tell her to stop doing what i have told her not to do or answer her question one more time, then i tell her its time to go play or find something else to do.. she is only 2.5 but i have found that making her stop and look at me helps get my point across without repeating myself or getting so frustrated that i start to yell.. i hope this helps you because i had a tough time learning to do it this way and still have trouble keeping myself calm and making her listen..

Lana - posted on 11/03/2011

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@ Kelina good ideas which i have tried but unfortunately for my daughter this does not work she has some sort of problem with receptive language. Which makes it difficult for her to understand or comprehend what we just told her to do.

What seems to work most times is to make sure I have her full attention when i ask her to do something or answer a question for her. Then give her lots of praise if she has listened. Sometimes she can get fixated on asking the same question I will answer in the way mentioned above several times then just I have answered that question it is time to go play. Trying to be calm at all times sometimes it takes a finger for her to focus on and a slightly raised voice for her to understand what has just been told to her.

Kathleen - posted on 11/02/2011

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I attempt not to yell of course...but toddlers have their way sometimes. After a few times of repeating myself I ask my son what did mommy and daddy just say. If he replies with what we said I reply that's his answer. If he continues asking I tell him he needs to go upstairs and play or go in the other room and play. Then I ignore the question or do what my mom always did, and reply, uh huh, yes dear, ok go play lol

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