how do i get my two tear old to sleep and stay asleep?

Erica - posted on 10/25/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




i have to lay with my 2 year old son to get him off to sleep which it could take up to an hour. he still wakes up in the night for me to lay with him an having a 4 month old i get up with her is tiring


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I do NOT have all the answers, because every child is different. With that said, I feel like I made this same mistake with my daughter when she was 2. I ended up doing the super nanny thing to wean her off my presence in the bedroom. The first step was to sit BY her bed w/o looking at her or talking to her. That's hard, but worth it. The next night I'd sit a little closer to the door...again no looking or speaking. Once I finally made it out of the room, I assured her I was right outside the door by leaving the door cracked so she could see me, again no looking or speaking to her. It's important to note that I did not begin the "steps" until after we brushed teeth, went potty, read books, sung songs, then lights out. Long story short, my two kids (now 4 and 2) sleep in the same room and go to bed well. We do the bedtime routine (teeth, potty, books, songs, etc) then lights out. I say goodnight to each of them and leave shutting the door behind me. My two year old does take an inch or so of water in a sippy cup with him. Like I said, every child is different but I hope this helps.

Lisa - posted on 10/25/2009




um. lol. I would have advice, but my two year old sleeps with me. I just put her to bed in my bed with a sippy cup of water, a few babies, a good fat book with no pictures (she loves to read them, I have no idea why) and I snuggle with her for a few moments until the bed is warm then I give her kisses and say "night night" and walk away. i leave the door open. she just lays in bed and "reads" then falls asleep. If she calls for something then I go to her. My husband is under the impression that I shouldn't go to her, but if I don't then she screams and cries for an hour before falling asleep, and if I do, then she quickly settles back down. I've never liked CIO, it makes my blood pressure go through the roof and makes me grumpy and pissy towards whoever is advising it. So I generally don't do it. I figure going to bed should be a good experience, not a bad one. and a child shouldn't go to sleep crying. I don't like to fall asleep crying, so why should they?
as for my older boys, they slept with me until they were 3 and 4 then we moved and I said big boys get big boy beds, in their own room! they still crawled into bed with me around 4am, but after a few months they stayed in their own beds.
to get them to sleep (this was many years ago), I darkened the entire room so that there was no light at all, and I would give them hugs and kisses and shut the door and wait for them to fall asleep. it was harder because they kept each other awake. but not having any light (as in they couldn't even see their hands) made it easier. or i'd just lay with them deep breathing and they'd fall would i though...

CheQuai - posted on 10/25/2009




Hi Erica.

I used to have to do that with my daughter too. She's 2 1/2 and never had a crib or anything because she always slept with me, so transitioning was kind of difficult. What I did though was take her shopping with me for her "big girl" bed. Seh picked it out herself and for about a month after getting it, I would have to lay with her and sing or read a story until she fell asleep. But after a while all it would take is me saying "ok, it's bed time now. All big girls have to get in their big girl beds now." Then I would read to her or sing, whatever she preferred, and then she would say "goodnight" and go off to sleep. She's also in daycare and they sleep alone on cots there so I think that kind of helped too. I'm not sure if it is different with boys, but I saw that no one had responded to your post yet, so I wanted to offer what helped for me. I hope I was able to help you in some way. I wish you and your family the best. :)

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