how do I keep my son from throwing himself back?

Michaela - posted on 06/15/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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when he gets mad he screams and throws himself back and tempting to hit me

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Paige - posted on 12/04/2013

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my son is 11 months old and when hes mad he either throws himself back or ir head forward, so I cant really just walk away bc it would result in him smacking is head on tile or wood floor, or even falling outta someones arms while they are holding him. ( which has happened before but luckily they were sitting down) so what should I do!!??

Helen - posted on 06/22/2009

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Just let him wack himself off anything he likes! Meanwhile, sit quietly on the sofa or walk away. When he screams because he hurt himself (assuming it's just abump, not blood gusshing everywhere!) just say, something along the lines of "Well that was a sily thing to do, wasn't it. Now your head hurts". He will very soon realise that it doesn't get your attention and so is pointless.

Shawvonte' - posted on 06/17/2009

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Hi Michaela I have Twins boy and girl and they both do the same thing, I just lay them back and let them go at it if you give in they have won and thats all they want is their way.

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Dara - posted on 06/28/2009

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Ignore him. When he sees that you are paying attention to his fits, he will tend to continue with the same behavior. Just ignore him, as hard as it may be and move on to something else. He will eventually stop.

Heather - posted on 06/28/2009

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I agree that its a young child having a hard time communicating and that at such a young age, a time out is not doing anything for them. My pediatrician reassured me that this should not hurt their head because the suture lines and the fontanel expand to allow a gentler "blow" to their little cranium! I hope just like you that this will go away soon!!! Good luck.

Geralyn - posted on 06/18/2009

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We are actually having some success with trying to give our 14 month old other ways to express his frustration. I do not look at it as something that is a behavior that requires consequences or time out. I see it more as these little ones have so much that they want to communicate and so limited ways to do so right now. We see the throwing himself back and putting his head down to the ground (used to be more like headbanging) when he is overtired and frustrated. Good luck with your son!

Sabine - posted on 06/17/2009

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Hi Michaela, I have got exactly the same problem. Its so good to see I am not alone. My son Jack 14 months throws himself back in the highchair when he had enough to eat and is tired. Its even worse in his cot in the morning whilst I have his bottle in the microwave. The other day I thought I he cracked the back of his head, thats how loud it was. I hope its just a phase, the same as his headbutting and throwing toys when he is frustrated. So much fun! Where is my gentle little boy gone?

Maya - posted on 06/16/2009

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I just let my son throw himself. At home...he'll throw himself back and bang his head but we have carpet...he did it once at my parents (no carpet)...and now he's very careful. It's so cute...he'll throw himself back back stop before he gets to his head...a lay it back gentle to test.



that being said...when he throws a real tantram...them I give him a minute (and ingore him) to see if he'll stop by himself...if he doesn't I tell him "We do not throw tantrum. Do you want a time-out?" When he stops (and he always does)...then i tell him "Okay, now, lets talk it out" Which is just really me talking since he's 17 months and don't say much.



If it's a 'fake' tantrum...I just go over and start doing something I know he'll find interesting, and normally he'll follow me and when he's busy doing somethng new...I give him lots of praise.



Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 06/16/2009

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My son is 20 months and the headbanging is driving me crazy. The pediatrician told us to just ignore him and give him time out if he will sit for 2 min

Keyla - posted on 06/15/2009

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Our son started to do that around 1. He would throw himself back when he was mad. We would be afraid that he would hurt himself! I think this ended up being the precursor to a tantrum. I think we just tried to ignore him. He has gone through variations of putting his head down, kicking and screaming, etc...

Katie - posted on 06/15/2009

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Hi Michaela. My Son also does this, i dont think there is much you can do to be honest, how old is he? my Son is nearly 2, what i do is when he goes to throw him self back i catch him and lie him on the floor, then i sit next to him while he paddys and every time he goes to bang his head off the floor i put a little cushion or my hand under his head to stop him hitting it of the floor.

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