How do I rid my 3 year old of temper tantrums?

Jamie - posted on 10/17/2008 ( 7 moms have responded )

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He has an awful temper on him. If I tell him no or put him in his room for a time out he kicks the door and screams like crazy for hours. He does not stop until someone gives in to him. But that is not how I want hiim to be. What do I do?

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Leigh - posted on 10/13/2010

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BEEN THERE!!! My child was the worst with tantrums... I even video taped her because some people didn't believe how bad she was, so I can relate 100%. The #1 thing that worked for me was a spot in the house where they could not see anything or people and let them have it out... IGNORE THEM!!! Mine finally came down to i have my child face the wall and can't turn around. Yes this sounds horrible, but she was way out of control with kicking hitting and completely flipping out with tantrums. When I finally figured that the wall seemed to work I used it 100%. At times she tries to throw herself on the ground and I simply walk over, have her stand up and re-face the wall. For about 2 weeks it was hard and a constant process of getting her to face the wall but now it works. When she has her moments I simply say time out and she turns and faces the wall. She knows now that the only way to get out is tom calm down and then we talk about why she was angry! Talking about it is a good thing, and mine is stuborn and sometimes doesn't want to but has learned she needs too. I hoppe this helps!

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Dixie - posted on 10/12/2010

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I would say ignore it but you want to kick that in the butt now when it starts and show him that it is not acceptable to act that way. When he starts on a tantrum put him in time out right away dont let him get away with anything....anytime you see him starting kick it right in the butt and then explain to him how he should be acting and that screaming and throwing tantrums are not.

Margaret - posted on 10/12/2010

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i try to ignore my daughters tantrums, or if i see one coming on i will say oh hey katelyn why don't you go find such n such toy and play with it. sometimes that works, if not she will usually freak out try to climb me and push me around bang her head on the cupboards. for some reason she gets upset when i am doing things in the kitchen and cant pick her up. this jsut recently started happening, because i was in school for a few weeks and she was soooo used to me being around all the time. But i definatly agree Lynn.. ignore it!! i try really hard to. i am not gunna lie sometimes i just cant and i try to talk to her etc, but the ignoring and not giving in has really seemed to help, along with the distratction. never hurts to try! :)

Jamie - posted on 10/19/2008

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Thank you very much, I've actually not been told about this method and I am going to give it a shot. Once again thank you. Every little bit helps.

Jamie

Susan - posted on 10/19/2008

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I agree that the best thing to do is to ignore it but make sure he is throwing his fit in a safe area where he cannot hurt himself. He is probably frustrated and does not know how to communicate his feelings to you. Once he calms down you should then talk with him about what happened and how he was feeling. You can give him words to try and describe his emotions. Good luck!

Lynn - posted on 10/17/2008

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I know it sounds crazy and you have probably heard it before but the best advice I can offer is to ignore him, as hard as it maybe you have to grit your teeth and pretend its not happening, just walk away and get on with something else. He has a tantrum to get your attention, by talking to him, removing him, hes got your attention....hes won...got what he wanted. If you walk away and just carry on he will probably get distracted and calm back down within 10 min. Doing this is NOT easy, it would take a couple of weeks of sticking to your guns for it to work. You need to be consistent always, never change track and never give in. If you can see a tantrum coming then try to distract him with a game or toy before he gets carried away. please try this, it worked for me, hope it gets easier and take care. Lynn

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