How do you pottty train a stuborn 3 yr old girl

Melissa - posted on 10/17/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have a 3yr old girl, Makenzie and a 17mo old girl, Miley. Makenzie refuses to go in the potty she says shes still a baby and wants to wear diapers, ive had to litteraly hang miley diapers from the cealing to keep makenzie out of them. she will go very rarly on the potty but very rarely. ive trid the hello kitty panties cars pull ups she just dont care about being wet she would set in it all day if u let her and then she fights you when you change her pull up. i just dont get it. ive tried the stickers ive tried getting her a toy ive tried candy. she just dont care. she wants to go to school so she can ride the bus but she WONT go in the potty!!!! What do you do? I need help ,PLEASE?


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Ming - posted on 10/23/2012




I have a 3yr old as well. This June I purchased her last diapers, I simply told her when I got to the last one that she would have to wear panties because I wasn't buying anymore diapers

I bathed her on that night and told her that she's a big girl now and put her panties on her. I made it simple for her to understand that when she needs to potty just let me know and she did very good. She had a few accidents but now she's fine. Her first accident, after I cleaned her up I told her that she had to stand in the corner, the second accident, I told her that she couldn't go play with the other children. Believe me, that hurts them very much without putting your hands on them.

Shannon - posted on 10/19/2012




My Mackenzie did the same thin at age three we eventually just put her in underwear and she got it. She also did the same thing as your daughter did

Angie - posted on 10/18/2012




If she doesn't have to be potty trained for school or daycare, let her be. She will come around eventually.

I do not force the issue and I don't 'train'. My oldest wanted to wear big girl panties off and on since she was about 2, but would have accidents and get so upset, so I would put her back in a diaper. About a month after her 3rd birthday (the day after I bought a box of diapers!) she told me she didn't want to wear diapers anymore and she has been spot on. After a week of diapers at night she was waking up dry, and has done awesome at night, too.

Her sister, who is 15 months younger than her, decided she didn't want to wear diapers about a month before her 3rd birthday and she too has done very well. She is still wearing diapers at night, since she doesn't wake up dry yet.

I would ask them from time to time as they got a little older if they were interested in wearing panties instead of diapers, but I don't push the issue. When they're ready, they're ready, and they will let you know! I do reward them for the first week. Oldest wanted life savers and the other was happy with putting stickers on a chart and getting almonds. I have literally been changing diapers for the last 4 1/2 years (I've got a 17mos old boy) and I would much rather change diapers than fight them on potty training. Good luck and best wishes!

Gemma - posted on 10/17/2012




I feel for you as potty training is very frustrating and hard work. My daughter is 3 now and had just been clean last 5 months but has odd accident .

I went out and bought a few potty books which i read to her every night and said at the end how good the people in the books were for going on the potty. Even made a bit of a song up.

It just became a bit of a game.

When ever i went to the toilet i took my daughter to as to show her it was normal and this what people did. Soon got the hang of it.

All children are different and you will get there in the end :D

Have you tried sayin to go to school on a bus you need to be in pants and go for wee ect on a toilet like all the other childen that will be thier.

Keep on tryin as said it soooooo frustrating but good luck we all get their in the end.

Amy - posted on 10/17/2012




When we potty trained my daughter I didn't use pull ups I went straight to underwear. She would run around with a shirt on and just underwear with the potty in the living room, that way when she started to go she felt it and could get over to the potty to use it. The first couple of times she peed on the floor, then when she got to the potty she forgot to pull down her underwear a couple of times, and then she got. Once she got it we moved the potty to the bathroom and just kept her in underwear, at night was the only time we put a pull up on her and the first couple of times we went on trips because I didn't know if she'd tell me while we were out that she had to go.

I would also try a reward system like stickers when she does go, but I would put the pull ups away during the day.

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