how much independent time do you give your toddler to play?

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User - posted on 12/21/2012

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Yes we do, I didnt know they did that! We actually go there at least once every 2 months, so I will have to check to see what they have. They did earlier this yr we took hime there to see a person who brought wild animals and the kids got to see up close and learn about the diff types. Thanks Ill look into it!

Devon - posted on 12/19/2012

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Stacy do you have a local library...they often do "play groups" or storytime....

User - posted on 12/19/2012

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Devon that would be great, I just dont know but very few people so it might be hard to find one. He does have cousins that are older but still young children so maybe I can take him to see them more often, that probably will help! Thanks

Devon - posted on 12/19/2012

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Stacy how about a play group to get him involved with other kids? you would have some "adult" time & he would also learn to play with others?

User - posted on 12/19/2012

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lol We really are super structured, he has been on a schedule since 3-4 months old. The only thing we dont have an exact time on is when we eat and thats just because I dont want him to eat when hes not hungry. he still eats at very much his own scheduled times. We get up at the same time, eat breakfast, then play time, and my chore time, lunch then nap, then play, then dinner, bath time, story time and bedtime. He sleeps very well nap and thru night. And has snacks inbetween if he needs it. the only time we switch anything up is if we are out in town doing errands/ park or the sort.
He is a smart toddler and can do many many things on his own (more than I thought he'd be able to), he usually doesnt let me help him, because he is always wanting to do it himself. I have encouraged this since he was born.

I think he just really likes to have a playmate, and since I am the one mainly with him, he looks to me. Ever since he was born I have been on the floor playin on his level, and I think he has got attached to that. He has full security with me and his dad to explore and he does everyday. Its just when it comes to playin with his toys he likes me to play along with him. I play with him like another kid would, and at the same time showing him to share, take turns, being gentle with things etc.
I feeel like hes just really attached to me though. I feel like I do everything I can to encourage him to play alone but not really sure what to do from here, he has the security and safety to do so. I think I will try during our playtimes to schedule an exact time during each day for him to bplay. thank yall

Gigi - posted on 12/19/2012

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My daughter is also very independant and could play alone for long periods even as 1 year old. I think its important to let them explore things themselves as well as play with them.
Maybe it would help if you made your days very structured, at least for few weeks to encourage him to play alone. You could divide your "home time" into portions - playing together, eating, chores that you can do together, alone playtime (while you do something else). you could use the timer so he knows that he has to amuse himself until the bell rings.
At 22 months he should be able to amuse himself for quite a while without needing you to be there with him.

Amy - posted on 12/18/2012

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If he doesn't want to play alone let him help with the chores. My daughter is a little older but she helps do all sorts of stuff around the house it takes me longer but I'm still able to get my stuff done.

Chloe - posted on 12/18/2012

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my 20 month baby girl play by herself all the time. she will just come to me if she needs anything like getting her puzzle or arranging her toys. shes very independent.

User - posted on 12/18/2012

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How much time during a day do you think is too much independent time?

I stay home with mine and he loves for me to play with him all the time, and really i try not to because I want to have a break sometimes lol and he needs to learn to play alone. When I do try to ge him to play alone, he seems lost. He will always come back to me, and its like he waits on me to play with him. I love to play with him but he is 22 mo now and really does need to break away in this aspect. Sometimes he will play alone but its only for a few minutes. Expecially if Im doing chores he'll come tug on my pants.

Im not really sure on how to encourage this without initially playing too, he thinks Im gonna stay right with him, but when I dont he never fails to run after me. And when I open up his play room, givin him all kinds of toys he wont stay and play. Any advice???

Devon - posted on 12/18/2012

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Independent play time is great for children...it helps them learn to use their imagination & be able to think through activities on their own....If my son chooses to play alone I let him & check on him frequently...(time varies based on where/what we are doing)....

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