How to break a toddler of temper tantrums?

Stephanie - posted on 06/05/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




My daughter is just about 15 months old, and the last month has been horrible for temper tantrums. If i say no in a firm voice she throws herself on the floor and screams bloody murder. If I say "ta-ta to mom" and take away something she shouldn't have but got a hold of, She flops around and screams and kicks, until someone gives it back. Lately I have stopped giving stuff back, and I have tried time outs in her crib, but it is getting worse. Any suggestions?


Xandria - posted on 06/05/2011




I ignore my daughter. She usually gets bored quickly when I stop paying attention to her and comes over and sits next to me. Now I have to work on training my husband to start doing the same thing.


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Kimberly - posted on 06/07/2011




if you ignore them they feel they have to try harder next time to get your attention. i know i have never met any one who didnt say just let them scream they will learn. what honestly your teaching them is try harder stupid. honestly it makes sence. just try it see what happens if it dont it dont

Kimberly - posted on 06/07/2011




my nurse just sent me a video on that exact thing how to deal with temper tantrums. the expert i fell in love with when he came out with how to have a happy baby came out with a happy toddler. copy them use words that express how they feel. hey need to feel you understand how they feel then when they calm down then explain what you want. every one feels there young adults instead think of them as little cavemen. primitive skills, when angry they grunt and throw things. thy need to know you understand so copy them i have even used it with my 9 month old stops the screaming instantly.

Christella - posted on 06/07/2011




My daughter has her tantrums, i just leave her on the floor and let her have her tantrum and i ignore her, because if you pay attention it's like adding fuel to the fire, after awhile she knows that I'm not paying any attention to her so she'll calm down, but it depends on your parenting style every parent has there way's of handling there kids temper tantrums.

Mary - posted on 06/07/2011




My son is 18 months old and is going through that now. He wiggles and yells and almost falls out of my arms sometimes - - he is very strong. I put him down on the floor and squat down so I am eye to eye with him and firmly say NO FUSS. Then walk away and continue what I was doing. He'll cry and fuss and run and hang all over my legs but I use a timer and give him no reaction for 5 minutes. Usually he walks away and begins playing with his toys. At that point I go to him and tell him that I don't like it when he fusses and that I love him very much.

Rebekah - posted on 06/06/2011




It's a phase at that age... my son went through it too. I put my son in his room, closed the door, and waited for him to calm down.

Ignoring works great too! The more reaction they get from you, the more they'll do it.

But whatever you do, DO NOT give in to the tantrum - you actually teach your child to give a tantrum to get what they want.

It's hard for a toddler to hear "no"... they just want to do and go and do whatever... they aren't used to boundaries, it has to be taught. :)

Valerie - posted on 06/05/2011




she is checking out the boundaries...stay firm about what is ok and not ok...let her know she can come out of her crib when she settles down

Michelle - posted on 06/05/2011




Mine does the same. All I do is just walk away. She doesn't get any reaction from me at all!!! That's working for me. She stops pretty quickly.
Most kids just want a reaction from you even if it's negative so if you don't give it then it gets boring.

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