How to deal with interfering parents

Angela - posted on 02/08/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm going through a rough time in my life where I've been living with my parents while raising my 2 yr old daughter. My issue is that my parents (particularly my mother) keeps making comments that make me feel like I'm a bad mother. She constantly makes it seem like because I'm choosing to raise my daughter differently from the way I was raised that I'm damaging or abusing my child & my father backs her up or joins in on insulting me. I've tried to talk to both of them about this but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other. I'm trying to deal quietly until I find a suitable job to move out but I feel like I'm gonna snap if she doesn't stop interfering and degrading my mothering skills. I'm not a bad mother nor am I abusive but I have rules & boundaries I've set for my child & don't feel that I should be disrespected because of that. Any kind and considerate advice welcome.

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Angela - posted on 03/25/2012

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Honestly Katherine, I don't have the time to try to get my whole family back in to counseling although I'm sure it would work. But I'm sincerely working on trying to move out asap! I can't take this much longer. What tools did your therapist suggest to get your mother to back off about your parenting skills?

Katherine - posted on 02/09/2012

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I am in the same boat exactly. My parents and I fight about this constantly. We have resorted to counseling and they are supposed to back off, but my mom forgets that part constantly.



I get really mad at her and fights ensue. They are MY kids after all. I have come to the conclusion that all I can do is ignore them. Well it's mainly my mother. She used to be a teacher and she thinks she should boss around my kids.



I have also come to the conclusion that I am not going to change her. So I either have to deal with it or move out, which isn't happening any time soon. I would suggest counseling because she DID back off for a while. It just seems like she constantly forgets. So I CONSTANTLY have to bring it up.



Being in the same boat it's kind of hard to give you any real good advice because I'm just as frustrated!

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