How to get 20 month old to sleep alone?

Bailey - posted on 08/02/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have joint custody of my child. I seperated from his father when my son was 10 months old.

I work full time, and live in 3 bedroom apartment with my son. When he stays with his father they both share a room in his grandmother's house, because his father is not employed.

About 2 weeks ago my son started to not want to sleep by his self. I'm fearing it's because he shares a room with his father.

I have him in a toddler bed since he was 12 months, and his father still has him in a crib.

I feel that every step forward we make, his father takes two steps back! He has constant anxiety when I put him in his room alone now, which he used to love so much!

Last night I had to rock him to sleep which I haven't had to do in a year, and I really don't want to get in that habbit again.

How am I supposed to help him learn to sleep alone, when he is so used to sleeping with someone at dads house?


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User - posted on 08/06/2012




Have something of his father. The smell of him may help. I used to have my daughter sleep with me becuase her reflux was really bad so I kept her in bed with me to keep a close eye on her. When she was well enough to sleep on her own, she was the same way - so used to sleeping with me she wouldn't sleep on her own. My gf's mom explained it was me she wanted and the seperation anxiety thing. So I put my pillow case in her crib and that was her sheet that she laid on. My scent was on that pillow case which helped sooth her because she could still smell me so to her I was still nearby or right next to her. Try getting a shirt of his father's or even just a pillow case. Put his dad's shirt on a teddy bear. Anything that smells like dad and have your son sleep with it, hope that helps.

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