How to get my 3 (almost 4) year old to stop screaming, biting and hitting??

Jennifer - posted on 01/12/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son who will be 4 in March screams all the time and he hits on occasion and starts to bite (usually when he's excited) - how do I get him to stop?

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Sarah - posted on 01/13/2015

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What may help with the transition times is setting a timer on a watch or phone. So 5 mins before you leave you set it and then give reminders at 2 mins. and 1 min. Same for if he is ready and you are not. Give markers on when you plan to leave.....after dinner, etc. and/or a timer for how long before you leave.

Jennifer - posted on 01/13/2015

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Just like today ... we had a play date where my friend and her son came over. It started out fine and then after an hour or so my son said he wanted to go over to the other boys house and I said no we are at our house playing. He started in with the screaming and crying. I picked him up because he wouldn't stop after I talked to him and placed him in his room. I had to do that about 3 times. My friend did leave and then my son fell asleep on his bed and he doesn't nap anymore. Guess that tantrum wore him out.
He does this a lot when we need to leave a place and he isn't ready or when he is ready and we are not. I feel like I can't take him anywhere.
I also can't even talk to him bc he can't hear me when he cries or screams and then I feel like I am yelling which doesn't help. Eventually I give up and place him in his room if we are at home.
I hope this phase goes away soon because it has been going on for sometime.

Sarah - posted on 01/13/2015

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I would continue with the time outs in his room. Make sure you are consistent and always follow through. When you can even when you are in a rush is to do a time out....I know this is not always a possibility, but the more you can be consistent the better. Sometimes it just takes time of always giving the time out when the behavior occurs before it goes away. My youngest is 3 1/2 yrs old and will scream and demand things be done on her time schedule. We have been doing time outs when she does that, it is getting better but it has taken time to get to where we are now at.

Jennifer - posted on 01/12/2015

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Sometimes I let him go and let him have his tantrum, but try to make him go to his room bc I don't want to hear the crying and screaming.
When we are in a rush, I keep talking to him to get him to do what I want. I try to watch my tone but it doesn't always seem to matter.

Jennifer - posted on 01/12/2015

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He has no speech issues and is very smart. I am not too sure why he does this. If it is something he doesn't like or he doesn't like what I am saying he starts screaming and throwing a fit. Sometimes he is perfectly fine and other days he is horrible. It is his way or no way.
My daughter never did this at that age and never worried about taking her any place. This kid has a fit all the time and can't trust how he will act.. Thought maybe it was just because he was a boy but I am not sure.

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2015

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What do you usually do? Does he talk or have speech issue? This kind of behavior is more common for an 18 month to 24 month old that has not learned how to express his emotions through words.

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