How to get my 3 year old to sleep in his bed through the night by himself?

Jilynne - posted on 11/07/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son just turned 3 this past October, and he was co sleeping with us. We made the decision to transition him to his room and his bed. We made a big deal about it saying that he is a big boy now and decked out his room with all of his favorite stuff. The first week was great, he woke up once each night and slept the rest of the night. The second night, 3 out of the 7 nights he slept ok enough, but the other 4 he was up every two hours. Now he doesn't even want to sleep in his room and is up every 45 mins, and only sleeps when i sleep with him in his room.



Mind you, i kept his bed time routine consistant, but i am getting a little frustrated as he did so good the first week. Also, i lay down with him every night until he drops asleep and then leave his room. I am a little sleep deprived so i am seeking any advice as to how to get him to progress more as i really want him to self soothe himself back to sleep without using me as a crutch.

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Brynn - posted on 11/08/2012

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I know what you mean! Sometimes us moms will do just about anything to sleep :) Just stick with what your doing and he be a champ at sleeping in no time!

Jilynne - posted on 11/08/2012

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Thanks Brynn, i will try this tonight. Last night he got up after sleeping for 25 mins and i promptly took him by the hand and told him that he needed to go to sleep as it was bed time. i sat by him and there were times he wanted to get up and i told him, no its sleep time and 30 mins later, he was asleep and didn't get up again till 2:30am and i repeated the same thing and he got up at 5:45am. I know that he can do it but when he becomes stubborn, its difficult to manage when your sleep deprived!

Brynn - posted on 11/07/2012

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Hi Jilynne- A tip I was once told was before bed tell him he is allowed to get out of bed a certain number of times, say 3, and after that he needs to go to sleep. This makes him feel incharged and each time he gets out remind him how many turns he has left. After three is has to be a big boy and stay in bed. From experience, Ive noticed it starts to become a game to them, or once you allow them in your bed or give in to sleeping with them, they know exactly what to do to get you to do it all the time. The key is to break the habit...immediately! As for the middle of the night I found just being really consistant with putting him straight back into bed, telling him its bed time and you'll see him in the morning. I know its torture to hear them cry but trust me....with my daughter who is 5...she is a phenominal sleeper and I just stuck to my guns and eventually she fell asleep on her own. Also both of my girls have favorite blanket or animal to sleep with. A lot of times I would tell her her little buddies need her to snuggle with them so they have a good night sleep,kind of a way to flip the situation and make your child feel like the one having help someone have a goodnight sleep.

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