How to get my two preschool aged boys to listen me!! HELP!!

Brittany - posted on 10/17/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have two boys, Evan 4 and Aiden 3. I was a working mom since they were born. Im a stay at home mom now. So im not really great yet. I wasnt used to being with them 24/7. I think with me working all the time it truely affected my boys. They listen to everyone else but me. My oldest evan is very hyperactive! He will scream and cry on the floor when he doesnt get his way, he will also just go up and hit or kick his brother for no reason at all. He is already talking back to me like hes 14. I am exhausted by 9:oo a.m . Aj my youngest is the total opposite. He is more laid back and independant. Evan has to be the center of attention at all times. I have tried so many ways to talk to him and discipline. i defies me right in front of me and than smiles!! I need to know if there are any other moms who have gone through this or are going through this. and do u have any advice??

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Katherine - posted on 10/21/2012

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LOL, it get's worse!!! My daughters are pretty good most days but yesterday was awful! When they don't pick up their toys and I have to I put them in a bin and make them do a chore to get them back. I do rewards charts with them too. If they're good they get to do something special. I TRY to focus on the positive behavior. Some days that's really hard.



I've never laid a hand on my 3 year old and she pushed me to my limits yesterday and I ended up swatting her butt. Then I felt awful afterwards! I guess moms have limits too. I find the more angry you get the more funny they think it is. Then I start taking things away. I plan a lot of activities for them. They could have gone to Greenfield Village yesterday, but they were so naughty they missed it. Today is Pumpkin Palooza, they aren't going because of their behavior yesterday.



Heck, they may miss Halloween altogether!

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Brittany - posted on 10/22/2012

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Thank you so much! I feel like they run my life. I dont like smacking them/yelling all the time. I have tried so many different things with them. My oldest evan is my hardest! Do you think time out really work? And i have noticed yelliong at them doesnt get me anywhere. ANd spanking them gerts thgem very upset. im going to really try my hardest. they just exhaust me to the point i just want to sit down and cry.

Val - posted on 10/21/2012

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They are both just trying the lay of the land, now that you are the main caregiver and being the mom, they are testing testing testing. All i can say is be the mom, not their friend, and also Less is Best. Let them earn the right to stuff when they are giving you this attitutde. You need to nip it all in the bud asap. This behaviour may surface when teens and that will really be gross. You need to grab the reins, and say exactly what you mean and mean exactly what you say. Even if it takes all day to put them in a time out seat. Just do everything when disciplining, like a robot, you are in control, you are the mom and the boss. Explain the rules, no back talk or you go to your room, or no tv, no favorite toy, and mean it. Dont show anger. Just repeat all needed discipline over and over til they get it. You are in control. It may take even 6 months. But you will have happy secure kids, who know they can count on you to be there for them, and they will be free to be boys who get along with each other. Take away the toys, the bedtime gets longer, -and never ever cave in. Dont reward with candy or let them get away with their manipulating. Really get this or your life at home will be sour, and your boy will get worse into defying you. That has to stop. Get some support from groups around you, as you need to really nip this in the bud.

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