how to get my two year old to sleep in her crib

Mellissa - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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my two year old has to sleep with us at night till she falls asleep then i move her to her crib.but tonight i tried to put her in her crib and let her fall asleep by herself but she just cried and screamed my name out i was afraid she was going to try climbing out and she would of fell so i need some help here on what i should do any suggestions

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Jennifer - posted on 08/29/2009

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My son was 18mths when we put him in a twin bed and he loves it. Its just a platform bed (about as high off the floor as a matt. & box spring) with a matt. on it and yes he has fell out of it. I just started putting some extra blankets or pillows on the floor next to his bed and he was fine. Now he just climbs in the crib with my 1yr old

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Gigi - posted on 02/15/2013

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I do exactly the same as Laura. Some night she goes to sleep imediatelly, some it takes a few times of going in and out of her room.
We also tell her first the story of her choice when she gets in her bed.

Laura - posted on 02/14/2013

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My daugter is 2 she is in a toddler bed, I put her in there turn some soft soothing music on and all lights off and sit on the floor with her for a few minutes. We talk about her day and what she did as I am rubbing her head. I then tell her I have to leave but will be back in a little bit. she might cry or call me for a few minutes but then falls asleep. ( I do go back in and cover her up and give her kisses so I do go back in a little bit.) you might need to just sit there with her and talk quietly almost in a whisper to set the sleeping mood. I have a video mont on her so if she does get out of bed I just say loud enough for her to hear you need to get back in bed and go sleep and she jumps right back in. :-)

Jacqueline - posted on 02/13/2013

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My two and a half yr old little girl is a terror when it come to sleeping in her own room, since she was 20 months shes in our bed, anything for a nights sleep, but now its taking its toll on me and my husbands relationship. any advice on getting her to stay in her room? i ve tried most things, she is a wonderful girl but will scream and shout till she gets her own way and in the end usually for peace she does!!

Tricia - posted on 08/29/2009

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I've tried mixing with the formula but not with breast milk. I've tried Ovaltine b/c that has the vitamins in it, Strawberry Quick nothing works but I keep trying

Jennifer - posted on 08/29/2009

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I don't know about breatfeeding but my 1yr old didnt want to drink regular milk at first so before i took his bottle i would put a little of the formula in the milk and after doing that for about a week he was fine. Now I go just about broke trying to keep up with him and his brother (2 1/2 ) with their milk. Dont know if you can mix your breast milk but if you can give it a try.

Tricia - posted on 08/28/2009

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Thanks Rachel and Kathy but unfortuately the crib is at the lowest setting she is just a climber. She is napping right now on the couch next to me. She falls asleep great in the car seat and when she gets exhausted she gets over tired then in hard to get to sleep b/c she gets so crabby. But I'm going to really try to get her to do the bed thing starting tomorrow night b/c we have my sisters 40th birthday party and she will be exhausted after that

Kathy - posted on 08/28/2009

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Number one...move the crib mattress to the lowest setting so she CANT climb out. My 18 mo old has struggled with this also. At night I need to rub her back to sleep, if she sits up, lay her back down. Be consistent. We are at the point to where at naptime she will go to sleep by herself. What helped us is leaving her bedroom door open. I think she doesnt feel as alone that way. If she starts fussing alittle, I tell her (from the other room) to lay down and go night night...if she starts screaming, I will go in there, lay her down then leave again. It is important for her to learn how to self soothe. Its easier said than done, but feels wonderful when its done :)Good luck!

Rachel - posted on 08/27/2009

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Put her crib on the lowest setting possible and let her cry. She shouldn't be able to get out. Sometimes it takes a night or two, but let her cry. She will exhaust herself. Try music too!

Tricia - posted on 08/27/2009

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Tracey,

Thanks alot that helps. My daughter is sleeping on the couch right next to me right now. She nursed before she fell asleep but woke up while I was reading your post but fell back to sleep right away. But now if I try to move her and put her in her toddler bed(she can climb out of her crib so we don't use it) she will wake up and start screaming and with me working part time and hubby not getting much sleep because he lost his job 2 weeks ago I haven't been trying as much as I should lately but I want her to be sleeping in her own bed and not nursing by her 2nd birthday(nov.) so wish me luck

Tracey - posted on 08/27/2009

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Tricia, (sorry I got my names confused)

I had this exact problem with my son who is 22months old. Heslept with me since birth and wouldnt sleep anywhere else. Now the doctor said when I was reaady to stop nursing put him in the crib and let him cry however I was unable to do this. So I had been sleeping in the bed with him and my husband was on the couch. I work part-time evenings so my husband would usually have him asleep on the couch with him when I got home then i would take him into bed and he would wake up a few times to nurse still at 21 months. Then some nights while i was at work he started to fall asleep with his brother 6 yrs so we got him a toddler bed in the begining it workedbetter if i was not around at bedtime but now it doesn't matter he doesnt even ask to nurse. As for the middle of the night he still wakes up sometimes he goes back in hisbed easily but others he doesnt and he ends up in ours which i know we need to get out of but i need a little sleep and were working on it. When he is in our bed and fusses because he wants to nurse if i cant get him to calm down all my husband has to do is speak up in a stern voice and he goes right to sleep without nursing. He hasnt nursed in the middle of the night for 2 weeks and I thought it was going to be impossible to get him to stop. i know this is lengthy I just wanted you to know your not alone and it is possible to change their habbits without leaving them screaming all night for days.

Tricia - posted on 08/27/2009

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I'm like Elizabeth. My daughter is almost 22 months old and still sleeps with me and has since birth. It wasn't that bad when my hubby was an over the road truck driver but now that he is out of work right now it's harder. I know its mostly my fault because my daughter is still breastfeeding at night. I finally got to the point where she doesn't breastfeed during the day but she won't go to sleep at night if I don't. I've tried just about everything to get her to drink milk but nothing seems to work. So she won't sleep in her own bed because she wakes up during the night and wants to be breastfed. So if any ladies can let me know how to fix the breastfeeding problem maybe I can too get my daughter to sleep in her own bed too

Elizabeth - posted on 08/27/2009

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Ohhh!! I have felt your pain!! :) We made the "mistake" of allowing our 3 yr old to sleep with us until she was around 2... and boy did we (and some nights) are still paying for it. Haha! I absolutely agree with Sally!!! Make a routine and stick with it. There were nights I would have to listen to my daughter scream and cry from her crib for 20, 30 min. but she WOULD finally fall asleep. I bet to, like all Mommies, you can tell when your child is crying from the crib its a mad cry not hurt cry. Remember everytime you give in, you actually are just making it harder for the next time. I know its EXTREMELY hard to hear your child cry like that but remember you are helping them achieve the independence to be able to get themself to sleep, also advice from someone who has been there, knip it in the bud now before you get a toddler bed. My experience was we tried the big girl bed but she climbed out and out of it so try the crib first. Good luck! Stay firm and it will get better!!

Rochelle - posted on 08/26/2009

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I agree with the previous posters...especially Sally. I would try her routine. Children are trained in utero how to play on your heartstrings...don't let the crying get to you too much. You know your little one is safe, warm and confident in your love for her...she just doesn't want to fall asleep by herself. I had a small period when our little girl (who has always slept in her own crib/bed) would cry buckets when I left the room...but never for very long. If it went on for more than a minute or two, I would go back to her, kiss her and lay her down (very business like) and go stand by the door as she fell asleep..sometimes for quite awhile...then I made my exit. Now I don't even have to do that anymore. And I never let her stay in my bed if she comes to me at night...I carry her straight back to her bed with a hug and a kiss. Keep trying! Be consistent and firm with love!



Rochelle, mom to Madeline, 3 years

Anna - posted on 08/26/2009

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get her a big girl bed make it a big deal make her part of it if you can let her help pick it up get her excited for it thats what we did for my son forget the crib and go with a bed a little one or even a twin day bed and get a little bed side thing so she doesnt roll off we did that with tony and he sleeps so well

Tracey - posted on 08/26/2009

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I'm in the same situation my youngest (will be 2 in oct) has been a terrible sleeper since birth my other 2 slept just fine in their cribs. We just recently started putting him in a toddler bed in his brothers room with a baby gate up. We are still at the point where we have to sit in the doorway until he falls asleep but as long as we are there he lays quietly in his bed. When he wakes up during the night we walk him back to bed and he lays right down and goes to sleep in a minute. Hopefully soon we won't have to stay in sight until he falls asleep, but this alone is major progress because he has always slept with us and woken up frequently. Good luck hope it works out for you.

Sally - posted on 08/26/2009

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You are doing the right thing by taking her to her bed once she is asleep... My daughter turned 2 in April and i finally have gotten her to the point where I can actually let her alone in her bed while she is awake (and she has a toddler bed). Every night we do our bath and brushing teeth routine then once we are in her room, we do not leave it. I turn a lamp on and shut the overhead light off. We sit down and read a few books (take your time) she wants your undivided attention. After we are done with books, i let her turn the lamp off, and we turn her mobile thing on (shows pictures on the ceiling). She crawls into her bed and for what felt like a very long time I would have to sit in the chair until she was fast asleep but like i said, i don't anymore. It really does take time and patience, but don't give in because that is exactly what she is trying to get you to do. Aren't they incredibly smart!! Hope this helps because i feel your pain, i struggled with it for a while but we finally have it under control!! Good Luck!

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