How to handle toddler curiosity?

Ashleigh - posted on 05/02/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 3 yrs old. She's beginning to pick up on things we didnt think she actually understood. Sexual things and exploration with her genitals. Is this normal for her age? And how do i go about handling it?

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Brittney - posted on 05/02/2012

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My daughter was 15 months when she discovered them (mostly during bath time and naked time.) I told her what the parts were, to sum it up we call them her private parts. If she starts doing that (shes 18 months now) in the living room or something, I tell her that she can go into her room to explore. Otherwise its a natural curiosity and I just leave her alone.

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Misty24_fleshstar - posted on 02/07/2013

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Its normal for them to explore mostly just during bath time for my kids. I have a 4 year old boy who showed me how balloons have sex and rubbed them together!:/ dont know how to handle that one

Heather - posted on 05/03/2012

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Totally normal for her age. You can tell her that it's something that she should only do in the privacy of her own room or bed though. She shouldn't just be doing it anywhere. Even in the bathtub is fine. If she asks questions, choose an easy answer. But it's normal to an extent.

Now if she is trying to put things in there, then get her to a child psychologist ASAP. Sounds like something might be wrong with her babysitter, daddy, uncle, older cousin... Maybe someone is molesting her?

Sarah - posted on 05/02/2012

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with my boys they started self exploration at 2 years old and carried on on the odd ocasion to about 6 years old with erections as well at times. I was just open with them and didnt condem them but tried to educate them into not doing things like that when others are about or in public. And had the usual sexual curiosity things from early age thru to puberty. Again had to deal with these thru ambressing questions but being open and truthfull depending how much to say depending on their age

Annaleigh - posted on 05/02/2012

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Yes its normal. Be factual. If she is interested in yours make sure you let her know its not ok to touch other peoples privates (and its not ok for others to touch hers, except momma when cleaning), but she can explore hers at specific times (bath time, naked time, whatever). I am not shy so my kids are pretty exposed, my 5 and 7 year old understand periods, so it's not a big deal. Kids need to explore to understand their own bodies, and giving them a set time/place to do it is helpful in reducing embarassing situations later on.

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yes, my son is 2 1/2 and he will play with his penis sometimes, usually during bath time or when he's on the toilet. I just tell him that it's ok for him to touch it but only in private when no one else is around.

Autumn - posted on 05/02/2012

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My 18 month old likes to grag her self when im changing her diaper. She thinks it's cute and i smile and tell her ''Yes! That's your Pee Pee!'' It hasn't gotten any further than that. When my now 6 year old son started grabing and squeezing his privetes, it scared me. Thought he was gunna rip the thing off! We had to let him know to take it easy down there cause he could get hurt and to do that in his room with the door closed. I remember my oldest saying to her younger sister that was straddling a blow up ball pit and bouncing up and down carelessly at the age of three (my eldest was 5) " stop having sex with that toy!'' I freaked. She had to tell me everything she knew. She heard this from a boy at daycare. I had to make sure she wasn't scared or feeling scolded. Then I HAD to tell her everything. I needed to remind her and her little sister that these wernt bad feelings. That yes even mommy feels them. That there's a time and place fopr everything, about safty (strangers and being alone). She's Ten now and I'm so glad that I told her these things. At any given moment she can and does ask me questions about any thing she wants and and im so happy to tell her. We look things up on the internet from Dr.s or ask professionals. She's not scared. She knows the truth. If masterbation WAS something bad to do, I could only imagine our out come. I would never hear "I don't want to have sex till I'm married mom." She doesnt want to have a baby like these 16 and pregnant shows. She has goals. She loves science and learning about her body and what it does and what it's capeable of doing. So as it may feel weard to say it's ok to touch, It pays off. It really does.

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