How to keep a toddler in their own bed ?

Samantha - posted on 08/06/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




My 18mth old is having trouble sleeping through the night in her own bed. She wakes up 2 -3 times a night and comes in to our room and wakes me up. I have already tried cutting down her afternoon nap time from an hour and a half to an hour but this has had little success. If anyone has any ideas that might work that would be great.


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EMMA - posted on 08/10/2010




I play soft music it called goodnight bronn journey it works for me and my toddler sometime they need help to stay sleep and that way my girl thing she did stay sleep all night now when i put on that cd after a bath and just make her lay down she go and stay sleep all night hope this helps they have all different ones at walmart

Amber - posted on 08/09/2010




i have a 2 year old and im a easy mom my husbands deployed and shes sleeping with me i try to get her to sleep in her room but not happening..than i just had a baby almost 4 months ago and i put her packinplay in my room so shes sleeping in the room with us but not in our bed my daughter has night terrors ever since she was about 6 months old since her dad was gone on his 2nd deployment now this is his 3rd and im still having problems with her

Danielle - posted on 08/07/2010




My son is three and was doing this exact thing. I tried making him cry it out, i ignored him, i slept with him, none of it worked... So I made a "sleep chart" I told him every night you sleep in your bed all night without waking up i will give you a sticker and a treat. He was interested in the treat in the morning and from the first night until now he has slept in his bed every night right away. Before the reward chart he would scream and cry and beg for us. This worked like a charm and I didn't have to go to him or anything. I put the baby gate up in his doorway to keep him confined if he did wake up. In the morning he put a sticker on his chart and I would give him a toy car or a trip to our favorite diner or the playground. Anything that I knew he would value or enjoy and it became a game... the kicker was that I would just tell him he'll see what his surprise is in the morning. Kids love treats and I couldn't believe it worked so well. So it's been four months and now I took the chart away and he's sleeping all night every night and STILL giving me a two hour nap during the day. Hope this helps you. :0)

Amanda - posted on 08/07/2010




I did the same as Jenny with the safety door knob cover on my kiddos' door also used a baby gate until my daughter was fully potty trained. When she comes to your room calmly say "lets go back to bed hunny" or something along those lines and take her back to her room and tuck her back in and then kiss her and hug her then go back to your room. She may throw a fit at this but ignore it it's cause she knows if she throws a fit you'll give her what she wants. I know it's hard but consistency is key.

Jessi - posted on 08/07/2010




I am doing a reward system with my daughter right now (she's 4). She is a stalling queen. I need a drink, i need you to pat my back, i need to go potty, i need.... Doing this for a couple hours. Now, if she stays in her bed for an entire week, she gets a special toy that she can pick out at the store on Saturday. Your daughter's younger, that may not work for you, she may not understand it.

Something else may be to just deal. BUT don't make going back to bed exciting. Take her hand, tell her she needs to stay in her bed, tuck her in, kisses and go back to bed. HOPEFULLY, eventually she'll get the idea and stay in her bed.

Cheryl - posted on 08/07/2010




I just went through this with my two year old. He started sleeping in his toddler bed at 18 months because he was climbing out of his crib. I made a huge mistake and started laying in his bed at night with him until he fell asleep..that was anywhere from a few minutes to a couple by the time he turned two in febuary i was pregnant and I and my husband put him in bed with us. Even bigger mistake. Just last week we moved and we put him in his own room and his own twin size bed. Now, 6 of the 7 nights we have been here he has slept all night without waking up (huge milestone) he woke up last night, I put my hand on him and he fell right back to sleep. He don't really take naps unless we are in the car. I had to re do his whole bed tiime routine but its takes patience, but eventually your kid will sleep all night. Just don't put the kid in your bed..its hard to get them out. Hope this helps, I know what you are dealing with!

Jenny - posted on 08/06/2010




It may sound cruel but for a while I kept a child safety door knob cover on on my daughters door so she couldn't leave her room (I was worried about her getting into things upstairs)... and kept the baby monitor in her room so I can hear when she woke up. When she cried I would get up and put her in her own bed, lay with her for 5 minutes then go back to bed myself. Eventually she stopped waking up and sometimes when she did she would go back to sleep. I'm sure there are other things you can try, but this was what worked for me.

My method might not be what your looking for but it's tough when she's already made a habit out of finding you... You'll need to keep putting her back in her own bed, maybe even put a night light in her room (red is the best since it doesn't interfere with sleep) or give her a stuffed animal to sleep with. Don't pull her into bed with you at night or during will confuse her. If possible only let her nap in her own bed. It will be tough for a while...but eventually she will feel comfortable in her own room. My daughter takes one nap a day and it normally lasts 2 hours, so I wouldn't cut down her afternoon nap anymore. Good luck...I hope you get a full nights sleep soon 18 months is a LONG time!

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