How to start potty training?

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Valory - posted on 08/07/2010

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I have to reply to a treat comment, yes they are children not dogs, but in a society where rewards are everywhere treats for potty is just part of that and is used in very successful potty training books. It is proven that potty training goes much faster with some sort of reward. Our son, who is three in November does not use the treat reward against us, we put our foot down and stand our ground. Children whose parents do not end up spoiled rotten and run right over their parents. I applaud any parent that potty trains a child without rewards, and I applaud a parent that successfully trains with. It is a difficult, trying milestone for parent and child. Every child is different and different methods are needed for training. The treat system is working well for us when before we where having a hard time with it, in the end, whatever works, works.

Amanda - posted on 08/02/2010

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Step one - buy a potty
Step two - leave that potty in the childs main playing area
Step three - take the child to bathroom with you, show them what you are doing, talk about how big kids and adults go to the bathroom on a potty
Step four - put your child on the potty first thing in the morning daily (this is when they are more likely to have to pee right away), make a huge deal if they do pee. Give them something to read or play with, or even a drink while they sit there, so they dont get bored waiting.
Step five - remind them how fun it was to go potty, and ask if they need to go now. Ask through out the day.
Step Six - when you feel your child understands the concept of the potty, remove their diapers for a day, and see how it goes. (Warning you may have mess to clean up, if the mess starts to annoy you put their diaper back on but dont make a huge deal about it. When you clean up the mess, remind them that this mess is suppose to go in the potty. DONT GET MAD).

You will be surpised how fast a child will catch onto potty training when encouraged, but not froced to potty train (they can even train younger then the normal 3 years old if done correctly). Going potty is the only thing in a toddlers life they have full control over, so go with your childs flow, allow them full control of their own potty, and when they will go.

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Hannah - posted on 08/10/2010

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I am also starting potty training. My son receives stickers everytime he uses the potty. The potty chart is taped to the bathroom door. It's not too fancy as to not distract from the main objective-potty training! ;) I'm not sure if he's ready yet but he uses the potty at least once a day. And Amanda, the stickers are a constant reminder to him that he is doing a great job and mommy and daddy are proud. He is not expected to be immediately potty trained. He is expected to do his best in all things.

Amanda - posted on 08/03/2010

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I dont agree with treats for potty training, that is way to much power for a child, who will only go if you have a treat. These are not dogs, they are children, who will spend a life time having to learn things without an award. I dont ever believe in awarding a child for doing what they are expected to do. If a child is ready to potty train they will do it just for the satifaction of doing it, no award will ever be needed.

Jill - posted on 08/02/2010

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I have two older kids and one younger kid. I tried to train my daughter when she was just 2 but she used it against us- only potting for treats, so we stopped. When she was 2 1/2 she came to me and said I am ready to wear big girl pants now. We put them on and that was it.
My older son was slightly afraid of the potty. Right when he turned three I put a potty on top of garbage bags in the living room. I let him run naked, gave him lots to drink and sat him on the potty every 15 minutes. As soon as he peed in the potty, he got it and was trained from that day on. Easy as pie.

My youngest goes to daycare. He moved up to a room where everyone was potty trained, even though he wasn't. We are more or less potty training because they started it. This has been our hardest one yet. He is getting it but it's taking a lot longer than the other two.
So- I am a HUGE advocate of exposing your kids to the potty and biological functions but ultimately letting them tell you when they are ready.

Tanja - posted on 08/02/2010

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I had my son trained by the time he was twenty months old. We put a chart on the bathroom door. Every time he went potty he got to add a sticker to the chart. If he went number one all day he got a match box car. If he number 2 it was an automatic car. We went and let him pick out a prize that sat on the fridge. If he went all week he got the $2.00 prize. We had him trained well in about a month but kept up the game for about two months. Hope this helps :)

Valory - posted on 08/02/2010

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Great suggestions, I have just a few to add -

get pull ups if you can afford them, we use 1 small pack a month. Our son started training at 18 mos (thats the age when they have control over muscles for peeing and pooing) he was poo trained almost right a way, he is now almost 3 and not quite trained yet but close. Don't set expectations on when you would like your child to be trained (I did and it has since gone and it is frustrating) use the treat method, I have been told this by many successful mothers. Don't use chocolate (I know from experience) Use all fruit treats if you can find them, or gummies of some sort. Get a timer if training is becoming difficult. Set it for about 15 min after they had something to drink. Don't give them the option to go pee, just say 'let's go'. A lot of times they get to busy playing and forget. We only use 1 pull ups a day, and if he pees in it then its back to a diaper. We give praise like 'you're getting so big' and 'awesome, good job high five'. We give 1 treat for being dry and 1 for going. So if he stays dry and goes he gets 2. It has worked pretty well. We start the day with a diaper and if he stays dry most of the day he gets a pull up. Also take your little one potty immediately after nap and before bed time. He lost his Granny in March so training reverted some but now hes catching up. Good luck.

Jodi-ann - posted on 08/02/2010

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Thanks for the advice...i do take her to the bathroom with me...the other day she said mommy i wanna pee while she was there with me she is 22 months....i hope to have potty trained by december....

Erin - posted on 08/02/2010

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I too am looking for suggestions on potty training! We bought the potty and have talked to our daughter about it but everytime she gets near it she tells me she doesn't want to...i am now at a loss... How old is your baby?

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