i feel awfull , im not enjoying the time with my 2 yrs old boy with terriible 2`s

Deborah - posted on 02/03/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




hi ya everyone i feel awfull writing this and dont really know how to put it , my little lad is 2 and yes with the terible 2`s whingy whiny demanding stropps ignoring me , he wont eat ,is coming out of his sleeps during the day which is good but he get very whingy later on during the day if he doesnt sleep but it can take anything up to 2 hours to get him to sleep for half an hour just to get him in a good mood , im at the end of my tether i am just not engoying being with him all day and i feel like i never get a break , sounds awfull but his sleeps was my only break , i dont have any family around me to watch him only hubby2bs family but most of them work and his parents watch there other grandkids while there parents work so i cant get help there , i just feel like im cracking up and loosing it i feel like i just dont likke being around him at min which is awfull cos i love him to bits i cant remember my girls ever being this bad oh and they are nearly teenagers so i have the whingy whiny strops and arguments to cope with from them , hubby is lovely and tries to give me a break as much as he can , any advise would be appreciated xthanks in advance


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Kellie - posted on 02/03/2009




I can sense you're overwhelmed right now and I can tell you that you're not alone.  I too have struggled with not wanting to be around my child because I just can't handle him at times.  I actually can't wait to get back to work after a holiday and then feel bad about it.  I agree with Courtney that a routine and lots of fun outings or play groups could help.  I think one of the reasons we're having such a hard time right now is because it's winter.  During the summer we would always walk to the park or play outside.  It really helped break up the day.  I would walk for hours and just go from park to park.  I called it park hopping.

Courtney - posted on 02/03/2009




Hi Deborah,

I am sorry that you are having such a hard time with you little guy. Do you have a set routine for when he is to take a nap! If not I would set a routine and follow it. It has worked well in my house. ( all 4 of my kids nap at the same time ). Does he have other children to play with ( playgroup or something), sometimes they act out because they are bored and need interaction with others ( mommy just does not do it all the time). Be consistent with any type of correction you give. If you put him on time out for whining one time do it all the time. Make sure when you are trying to talk to him that you are looking in his face. even if it means you need to hold on to his face to do so. If you tell him something before you are finished with the conversation ask him if he understand you. ( i make my kids respond with yes mommy I understand you. ) this makes him accountable for his action. I read a book called "On becoming baby wise by Gary Ezzo,M.A. and Robert Bucknam M.D. it really helped me. they have a couple of books. The one I mentioned to you goes from infancy to age 2, then Child wise from as 3 -7 and I think they have one for teenagers too. You should be able to find this book at walmart. Above all remember that he is testing you and wants to see how far he can push. DO LET HIM PUSH! Let him know that you and daddy are in charge of the house, not him. ( I would say this to your daughters too. in regard to their behaviour.) they may not realize this but he is watch them and will copy their behaviour too. Make sure that they are showing you the Respect you deserve as their mother. I hope this helps.

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